'You're not qualified to have an opinion'

[justab]

Is it normal for my partner to say things like this to me if I comment on things? Such as a tv show he is watching when he asks me a question. I can't tell if I'm sensitive or if he's just horrible and trying to stop me from being a person. I'm so sick of it, I have a 7mo baby and these comments have got more frequent since I have birth. I feel worthless.

No he's being a dick. My ex was a chef, I'm a really good cook but he used to stand and watch me do things and either snigger or push me out of the way to take over as I wasn't doing how he would.

He also had zero respect for women's opinions. Two years I put up with that shit until I dumped his sorry ass!

I've asked for some family help with the baby for a week whilst I have some time to think. They are a distance away but I am going to stay with them. It's not a long term solution so just need to see what I can do for the best.
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That's a great idea OP.

Hopefully you'll get some perspective and will see him for what he is, an abusive bully trying to demean you.

Great decision OP.

Good luck OP, hopefully that will give you the space you need to see things clearly.

Enjoy your week away OP!

Justab- I was wondering if you had any family you could lean on.
He’s not being kind to you when you need him to be.
Get a good rest - maybe stay for two weeks to have a proper break from him.
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That not normal, it's unpleasant and disrespectful at best and as it seems to be part of a pattern, abusive.

Just to add. When I served the divorce papers, he sent me a message in Klingon, which apparently translates to 'you have no honour

I'm recently bereaved and haven't laughed since my loss, but this gave me a chuckle.

How utterly bizarre.

Oh my God he said you weren't 'qualified' to give your opinion on aliens or crystal skulls?????????? HAHAHAHAHAH. Honestly, that is truly pathetic.

AND, he even asked your opinion on the matter, which basically translated to 'Agree with my equally unqualified opinion on this matter or I will belittle you for even having one'.

@DumpedByText

No he's being a dick. My ex was a chef, I'm a really good cook but he used to stand and watch me do things and either snigger or push me out of the way to take over as I wasn't doing how he would.

He also had zero respect for women's opinions. Two years I put up with that shit until I dumped his sorry ass!

@DumpedByText I have the impression that male chefs are a shouty, angry, disrespectful, sexist, aggressive lot. It seems to be part of the job description for many.

To be honest he sounds like an emotional bully. People like that always start small with their underhand comments to try to make themselves feel better. Then if you challenge them, you are accused of being 'too sensitive '.

I've asked for some family help with the baby for a week whilst I have some time to think. They are a distance away but I am going to stay with them. It's not a long term solution so just need to see what I can do for the best.
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Hopefully you can get some rest and distance and start to see him fir who he is.

I agree with the other posters who say that he's started on the abusers checklist. You need to look after yourself

Are you Jackie Weaver?

He sounds horrible, not a great person to have to be around and to bring up children around.
I think you need to seriously consider how and when you can leave if this is an indication of things to come.

Sounds like he's one of these conspiracy theory idiots who thinks everyone else (including you) is a "sheeple". I doubt he's going to get any better.

@justab, good luck, sweet.
You can do it on your own, if you have to. Take some time on your own for now. Don't think you have to rush into anything, but next time he speaks to you like that, a firm fuck off will suffice .

When it comes to aliens, no-one is qualified to have an opinion because (putting aside all the Roswell and Area 51 conspiracy nonsense) the human race has yet to have 1 single publicised and verified encounter with any alien race - if they even exist! So whilst in his head he may be the foremost expert on the subject matter in your house, in the grand scheme of things it’s as useful as being the foremost expert on fish suppers.

You say you’re starting to watch what you say and maybe contain your thoughts - don’t. Once you start changing who you are just to fit in with the abnormal behaviour of someone else, there is something seriously wrong - if he can’t accept you as you are, then he’s not the right person for you.

At least he has his brother to tell him 'sense' (agree with everything he says and that I am uneducated about the things he's 'spent years researching') people will be extinct in a few years apparently. How insightful.

At least he has his brother to tell him 'sense' (agree with everything he says and that I am uneducated about the things he's 'spent years researching') people will be extinct in a few years apparently. How insightful

I think the other posters who are saying that they've been through similar and he won't get better are right.

Take your week away to see how you feel after a week of not being belittled but you might find it easier to do it on your own rather than put up with this sort of crap long term. He's showing clearly who he is right now.

@sandyy2k glad I could be useful. I just now worry that some poor woman who's not as strong minded as me, will end up with him. I'm just waiting for the day I hear about a similar man.

Won't eat cold food
Eats chicken nuggets in fancy restaurants
Must always belittle part we in front of others, and at home
Let's his mum pay for his car
Plays on his 'shooty-bang-bang' kids games with a headset on for hours on end..

Oh who am I kidding, he's either still living with his mum or he's run off to be an extra on Star Trek

He’s partially causing your pnd. Get away from him. He’s vile.