How do you accept you will never have children without ever trying?

[LudoBear]

Due to numerous reasons, I'm highly unlikely to ever have children. However I've wanted to me a mum for as long as I can remember. As a child when asked what do you want to be when grown up always to be a mummy.

I've never actually tried to get pregnant though, so it's not like I'm unable to have children (I have pcos tho), but I've not chosen to not have children either.

I'm asexual, have pcos and adhd, on long term benefits living benefit payment to benefit payment
..get my money tomorrow, currently got 52p left. No way I'll ever have a child.

How do I come to terms with that?

Sounds like you might actually be able to have a child but are making choices. If it is really something you have always wanted why not be more proactive and look at options (sperm donation, adoption etc). You mention not having money but wanting a child and love are more important things to give a child than financial security. Are you sure you're not putting obstacles in your way because you are understandably a bit frightened of such a huge commitment as a child?

Are you able to get support to get into employment?

I actually think the op is very sensible not to consider bringing a child into a very unstable financial situation. Very hard though, does your ADHD prevent you from working?