Oh calling me discusting for wanting to separate

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Am I discussiting
He’s saying im horrible and its discusting behaviour
I said i want to call it quits on the relationship
16 years & kids but not married
Im fed up of him and want more
Well actually id be content on my own

If he thinks you’re horrible why would he want to stay with you?

If you’re unhappy then you know you can leave him.

Do you work?

Yes I work part time @AnneLovesGilbert

What's he done? Or is all round a lazy annoying bastard?

The latter🙄😭

What does he mean by disgusting?

Get rid. He's a twat.

Do you think he means it? Or do you think he's just saying it to be spiteful because his domestic idyl is coming to an end and he's worried he might have to do his own cleaning/cooking/laundry

He's the disgusting one.

He means im horrible in wanting to break the family up/ end things when he doesn’t

Well unfortunately he doesn’t get to choose for you. You have a right to end the relationship, and it sounds like you have plenty of reasons to think life would be better without being with him. It’s not ‘disgusting’ as he puts it, and even if he does feel that way - again, it’s not up to him. Choose the best option for you and your kids.

Well, to be fair, he doesnt have to like the idea. But it's your choice and you dont need his approval.

No, it's not disgusting to leave a horrible relationship. On the contrary - it's bad to stay in one.

A shame tactic.

Now you feel you have to prove to him you have the right to end things and it doesn't make you disgusting because it's fair because of his treatment.

And by doing that you continue dancing like his puppet.

Dont bother trying to reason with him. He knows fine well why you are done with him. He just wants you to focus on proving your choice is justified - rather than actually getting rid of him.

He has broken up the family by being a swine.
And tbf, a swine like him isn't your family anyway.

Of course you're not disgusting.

If you're not happy in your relationship then you have every right to separate. You don't need his permission. Men seem to think they're still authority figures. They are not.

If you've thought it through and you're sure, then do it op. It's not up to him what you do with your life.

Have you thought about plans for the kids?

Well I can see why you’d want to leave! Stand firm. You’re definitely allowed to end a relationship if you want.

Thanks
Id assume he’l see them on weekends or every other what ever is best as he works long days mon - fri

What age are they?

6 & nearly 10

Your not disgusting or horrible.
You said he’s lazy and annoying, and he probably can’t be bothered to change his ways. So no point staying.
He knows he’s about to lose you, and he probably can’t deal with change. He’s lashing out to make you feel like the bad one. I’m sure you’ll have better times with the kids too, as you won’t have to deal with him.

I think your very brave for going for what’s best for you and your children be proud of yourself x