DP wants to take a career break

[Miffed2020]

I wasn't sure where to put this. I've also changed my username as this could be outing.

DP and I both work full time and we have a 5 and a 7 year old. I wfh which may be permanent when things go back to normal.

A few years ago he took a job with an hour commute so he could get promotion. I had reservations due to the distance but he went ahead. He hated it. Not only the commute but the place of work. He has since applied for jobs closer to home and is waiting to hear.

Today he announces he want to take a 6 month career break. I'm concerned but I don't want to look unsupportive. He said it depresses him.

He can afford to fund himself. He's playing the "I can do housework and kids drop off and pick ups" etc. I'm concerned he will be sitting on his arse all day, drink far more, and not want to go back to work after the 6 months. He also supports his mother financially.

I didn't sign up for someone not to work. We had plans. Those will not happen if he doesn't earn a wage. I don't know what to think. It scares me.

Anything been through this or have any thoughts on what I need to discuss with him?

If the partner was female the advice would be take all the time you need in the world to sort your mental health out. Fuck him if he doesn't like it, he will have to step up and care for your well being. Your family need you around. You are the mother of his children and will need to bankroll you. Oh he's reluctant because he wants to move to a bigger place in a few years. Well how is getting back into debt going help your mh?

There would be no mention of things like becoming the main carer in the event of a split. No ultimatums, or demands that it's for a couple of weeks only. And if he did there would be screams of omg what a bastard.

And unfortunatly, depression often comes with lots of slobbing around that many wouldn't be tolerating.

Can he book a week off and apply for lots of jobs now, then have a months gap between jobs.

@canigooutyet

If the partner was female the advice would be take all the time you need in the world to sort your mental health out. Fuck him if he doesn't like it, he will have to step up and care for your well being. Your family need you around. You are the mother of his children and will need to bankroll you. Oh he's reluctant because he wants to move to a bigger place in a few years. Well how is getting back into debt going help your mh?

There would be no mention of things like becoming the main carer in the event of a split. No ultimatums, or demands that it's for a couple of weeks only. And if he did there would be screams of omg what a bastard.

And unfortunatly, depression often comes with lots of slobbing around that many wouldn't be tolerating.

Not true. Most of them it's that no one should unilaterally make a decision like that, announce it and do it.