Just gone through partners phone

[soconfusedddd]

And he's sent himself a picture of a girl only wearing joggers but her boobs are crossed out? What could this be about? What should I do? I know I was wrong to go through his phone but I just had a feeling. He sent it to himself a week I went into labor with our first baby... I'm so upset, he's asleep I haven't woken him up.

@Trainerdilemma

So sorry, op, he sounds like a total dick and to just admit it like that, who is she and why did he scribble the boobs out 🤷🏻‍♀️He sounds odd

She's just a random Asian girl on Twitter, not a huge amount of followers but enough to be called an influencer. She's prettier than me.

Dont go back OP. They never change. I'm glad you could go to your mums while you get things sorted. Good luck with it all

@TheChip They really don't. Thanks so much for the support.

It’s all very well peoplecsaying that others have no rights to look at your phone etc, I totally agree if partners give you no reason to feel they are untrustworthy, that’s not it acceptable, however in many cases partners have done untrustworthy things often multiple times and there no doubt many women out there thinking that they wished they had done a bit of snooping before suddenly found themselves in a poor position totally out the blue.

@yetmorecrap

It’s all very well peoplecsaying that others have no rights to look at your phone etc, I totally agree if partners give you no reason to feel they are untrustworthy, that’s not it acceptable, however in many cases partners have done untrustworthy things often multiple times and there no doubt many women out there thinking that they wished they had done a bit of snooping before suddenly found themselves in a poor position totally out the blue.

I've always thought if you get a feeling it's probably right.

@soconfusedddd

I’ve too many friends and associates who have been utterly taken for idiots seemingly by nice family guys. all lovely people who were devastated and who it turns out didn’t follow their suspicions/gut instinct. My view I’m afraid is if your life is tied in with someone financially and in terms of being a well established couple/married— you have every right to know if someone is up to no good .

This thread is absolutely insane

@soconfusedddd

To all those calling me crazy, he did wank over that picture, and now I'm leaving.

Why? He’s probably looked at other images in the past via other formats. He’s not exactly cheated.

Huge overreaction.

If I'd had the opportunity to look at my exes phone, I'd have dumped his sorry arse years sooner. He was a lying, deceitful, secretive 'man'.

Anyone who 'protects' their phones etc is hiding something. I'd have no issue whatsoever with my partner using/googling etc my phone. However, to actually use your partners phone to trawl through messages/history for no reason other than 'nosy' is an absolute no no.

If you have very good reason to be suspicious, then definitely look. IMHO

I agree with a previous poster that this thread is insane.

I think you're just pissed off she's prettier than you.

How easily people throw away relationships nowadays is INSANE

Did I miss the explanation about the crossed-out breasts?

Bizarre

Maybe he was trying to wank respectfully 😂 @ArmsClary

Clearly no ones read my reply explaining that this isn't the only thing.

There's clearly more problems in the relationship and you're absolutely in your rights to leave him if you're unhappy.

You sound over dramatic to me. Even if everything else u said is true (Who knows) . When you have a child with someone, unless it's extreme circumstances you don't just decide to leave as you did so carefreely. You sit down and discuss and see how to fix the issues in the relantionship and if after that you both see it as the best thing to end things you plan how to do that in a way that least effects your child. You need to grow up for your childs sake. You sound very young and immature.

He did get worse yes. He was the one that was dying to have a baby with me though. I think it was so that I was dependent on him

You hit the nail on the head, op. He is now trying to scare you with tbe single parent trump card.

You absolutely did the right thing. He us a weak, pathetic excuse for a man. You are going to get stronger and stronger. Never look back. Well done, you are already a strong woman to have seen through his bs and leave.

Sorry but I think you’re both well rid. Of each other.
You sound about 15. I presume he’s a similar age. 🥴

He sounds horrible and well done for getting rid. I just wonder why you went through his phone? Why did you need to find that evidence in order to leave? You had plenty of other good reasons.

I just think that if you've got to the point of snooping in someone's phone, don't. You're already past the point of no return.

And no, no-one has a RIGHT to breach someone's privacy like that, however connected you are to them and however much of a tosser they are.

@FluffyHippo

Stop going through his phone, you creepy stalkerish woman! How dare you? Would you like him to go through your things looking for 'evidence'?

How rude!! At least she doesn’t have your attitude!

'It's not worth staying for the child's sake' - Of course not, who gives a damn about that right?

Sorry but I think you’re both well rid. Of each other.
You sound about 15. I presume he’s a similar age🥴

Piss taker. Not needed.

'This thread is absolutely insane'

Yes. Makes you wonder why people get together, EVER. 'Hey I really like you, shall we get married - and is it okay if I check your phone/laptop whenever I like?'

'No, you're a paranoid nutter, go away.'

This is up there with the most ridiculous threads I've seen on here. I feel for your child.