Just gone through partners phone

[soconfusedddd]

And he's sent himself a picture of a girl only wearing joggers but her boobs are crossed out? What could this be about? What should I do? I know I was wrong to go through his phone but I just had a feeling. He sent it to himself a week I went into labor with our first baby... I'm so upset, he's asleep I haven't woken him up.

He wanked over a picture or did he cheat? Thats the question

Oh dear. I’m a Mumsnet man hater and even I think this is an overreaction I have to say. I know everyone has their own boundaries, but really? A woman in joggers with her boobs crossed out?! It doesn’t get a lot more tame than that. And he’s allowed to masturbate you know. You can police someone else’s sexual enjoyment. Sounds like he’s dodged a bullet tbh.

You can’t*

FFs phone!

That's a classic way of hiding things so they don't stay on your camera roll etc. Send on DM or email to yourself - delete the received email but it will stay buried in 'sent' email folder.

I would do a lot more snooping before you confront him - once you do he'll remove all evidence.

Do you think he's been in contact with a woman who's sent him this photo?

Crikey! That moved along quickly!! What on Earth happened op? Are you ok?

@saltychocolateballs

I think you do , if they give you suspicion then yes 100 percent . It's a phone for god sake . Hate it how technology such as Facebook and phones are taking over peoples lives . Me and my partner know each other's codes for phones ..... because we have nothing to hide

Nobody has a "right" to look through someone else's property, you might think that you have a right to look through someone else's phone but nobody actually does

You're leaving him because he wanked over a photo?

How do you know he wanked over the photo- this is all a bit crazy !

There’s got to be more that OP’s not told us... hasn’t there?

Otherwise this seems like the biggest over-reaction I’ve seen on this board, and that’s got some competition!

@soconfusedddd

To all those calling me crazy, he did wank over that picture, and now I'm leaving.

I don’t understand you’re leaving him because he masturbated using a topless pic of a random woman with her boobs crossed out?

That seems rather extreme, is there a back story?

Seems an odd thing to wank over...

Everyone is jumping down the ops throat but there is clearly a backstory to this

Unless it's been sent from a woman he's been having an affair or inappropriate chats with, then this is weird.
Maybe he likes a jogging bottom bottom, had a tug, thought nothing of it.
Then you arrive asking what it is, he admits he had a wank.

I mean are there other things going on here because this is crazy.

You’re leaving because your partner masturbated????
It’s a healthy part of a relationship- unless he starts wanting you to scribble out your boobs and reenact things he watches.
I would much rather my partner wanks than goes and sleeps with other women.

Are you saying you never masturbate?

I’m not really sure how that escalated so quickly but I hope you’re ok OP

So what’s the backstory then OP ?

I'm confused.. It was a picture of a random girl or someone he knew? Because if he masterbate over a random picture then can't see the problem, other than it being a wierd picture to masterbate over

I would think OP will be rather too busy to update an Internet thread if she's leaving her partner today, chaps!

'Who was the picture of?'

Someone with recognisable boobs??? :)

Hmmm maybe it was a pciture he found to send on to his mate - like they were having a bit of a laugh saying "oh no, gone in to labour" mate saying "you'll have no boob action for a while now" and sent over a picture kind of thing!

@saltychocolateballs

Oh my god . If you have a feeling about something you ha e every right to look through a partners phone . People would still be with cheats and porn addicts thinking their married lives are perfect otherwise 😴. Do not apologise op . This does not reflect on you at all but only him . What a dick . I really don't get why a photo with scribbled out boobs unless he knows her . That's the only reason

Your last two sentences make absolutely no sense.

OP have a calm conversation with him about it. No-one on here can tell you what this is all about. It is a horrible thing to find, but it doesn't necessarily mean he knows her.

@baileys6904

Pmsl *@saltychocolateballs*

Would you say that to a man as well?? That if he 'has A feeling' he has a right to go through his partners phone?? No would u fuck, so don't start trying to justify it now.

And does it hell mean he knows her. Stop taking someone else's upset and winding it up for your own purpose ffs.

OP, no one on here will know why he did that. Not a scoobies. No one knows him, ur relationship or why anyone would cross out boobs.

Talk to him and ask. To me, its strange but nothing horrendous but that's me. You have your own boundaries but please don't allow the mumsnet man haters to get in your head

I love this,

Never mind about the 'not a scoobies' which I've not heard for years but she is right even if blunt

I also get that when you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach, it does send you into detective mode but this is quite an innocuous photo, even if he is using it for his wank bank

I would speak to him about it, you know him better than anyone on here and his reaction will tell you if you think he's up to something more deceitful than a picture of a woman with her tits out, at this point, I think an honest conversation is the best way forward.

I mean... I would rather my OH wanked over a photo of a stranger than over a photo of a girl he was in contact with or cheated. Of course it's not ideal but some guys need a bit of visual stimulation to get going. If you weren't at that time able to offer that, maybe he didn't want to badger you and so thought that was his only option?

Seems a little extreme to leave him over that.

@ClangingChimesofDoom

I would think OP will be rather too busy to update an Internet thread if she's leaving her partner today, chaps!

Brilliant

Have you seriously just left the Father of your child and ended your relationship because he had a wank??