Just gone through partners phone

[soconfusedddd]

And he's sent himself a picture of a girl only wearing joggers but her boobs are crossed out? What could this be about? What should I do? I know I was wrong to go through his phone but I just had a feeling. He sent it to himself a week I went into labor with our first baby... I'm so upset, he's asleep I haven't woken him up.

Jeeeez if this is enough to split up with someone then I better tell my partner to throw me out!

Are you ok op?
Checking phones?
Mass panic and suspicion?
Leaving him over a picture?
There must be a massive backstory here

if thats all it is I wouldnt go mental. I dont think it sounds that bad.

His dad always insults me, DP never defends me. Always tells me I'm useless, crazy, deluded. Says I'm a bitch. Ignores me if we argue and I mean for days. Had me painting the house when I was pregnant with awful sciatica whilst he was sat on his phone. Messaged other women, looked at other women. This is just the final straw. And if it were me he'd have a lot to say, believe me.

ok, well that update is much more of a reason to leave than the picture x

Good grief, please tell me you haven't seriously ended your relationship over a wank? Maybe you have PND and it's distorting your thought processes. I hope you are okay.

@soconfusedddd

His dad always insults me, DP never defends me. Always tells me I'm useless, crazy, deluded. Says I'm a bitch. Ignores me if we argue and I mean for days. Had me painting the house when I was pregnant with awful sciatica whilst he was sat on his phone. Messaged other women, looked at other women. This is just the final straw. And if it were me he'd have a lot to say, believe me.

Well based on this, even if he hadn't looked at that picture most people would advise you to end the relationship. He sounds like a prick. Glad to hear you're done with him

@saltychocolateballs

I think you do , if they give you suspicion then yes 100 percent . It's a phone for god sake . Hate it how technology such as Facebook and phones are taking over peoples lives . Me and my partner know each other's codes for phones ..... because we have nothing to hide

I expect to read posts saying you only say that so you can check your partners. You’re controlling!

How did he take the break up, and how are you now that it is over?

@soconfusedddd

His dad always insults me, DP never defends me. Always tells me I'm useless, crazy, deluded. Says I'm a bitch. Ignores me if we argue and I mean for days. Had me painting the house when I was pregnant with awful sciatica whilst he was sat on his phone. Messaged other women, looked at other women. This is just the final straw. And if it were me he'd have a lot to say, believe me.

Ah well, that is entirely different. Yes, I think it is time to leave, and good for you for realizing this. You have to be brave now, stand your ground, and show him he can no longer walk all over you

Do you have any friends or family you can ask for support?

Thanks everyone and he tried telling me I'd have nothing and be a single mum and why would I want that with no support. I said don't try and guilt trip me it's over I refuse to be treated like crap any longer.

@soconfusedddd

To all those calling me crazy, he did wank over that picture, and now I'm leaving.

Good on you op once they cross a line that they know you you don't want in a relationship I think you have the right to leave him . How did you know he wanted over it tho? Did he tell you ?

Yes @saltychocolateballs he told me and even said if I did that he'd be raging. It might be ok in some people's relationships but if he thinks it's not ok for me to do it then why is it ok for him?

Absolutely you should have looked through his phone, since you sensed he was up to something and he has form for messaging other women. I'd have done the same.

Glad you've got what you needed to be strong enough to make the decision to leave. Sounds like it was just a matter of time.

@BrilliantBetty

Absolutely you should have looked through his phone, since you sensed he was up to something and he has form for messaging other women. I'd have done the same.

Glad you've got what you needed to be strong enough to make the decision to leave. Sounds like it was just a matter of time.

I had been planning it since baby was born. I was just waiting for him to tip me over the edge.

Did he get worse once you fell pregnant?

Read your update OP, best thing you did was leave. Good for you.
Sending you strength to get through this, which you will

Does he have some sort of loungewear fetish? What a strange thing to wank over.

He did get worse yes. He was the one that was dying to have a baby with me though. I think it was so that I was dependent on him. And he has some fetish for Asians and the girl was Asian.

Op have you named changed and posted about him before? There was a poster who said her partner had a fetish for Asian women and it made her insecure. Was it you?

@soconfusedddd It sounds like you're making the right decision. So, what's the plan, do you think?

It might be worth having a crisis meeting before leaving. Even if he's not worth the effort, it's worth it for the child. I don't get the Asian babe fascination a lot of men have.

@MottTheHoople

It might be worth having a crisis meeting before leaving. Even if he's not worth the effort, it's worth it for the child. I don't get the Asian babe fascination a lot of men have.

She's updated her post since.

It's not worth staying just for the child!!

So sorry, op, he sounds like a total dick and to just admit it like that, who is she and why did he scribble the boobs out 🤷🏻‍♀️He sounds odd

No Bluntness I haven't posted about him before. I'm sorting out a new house as of now and hopefully starting to get a job once baby can go to nursery. exDP keeps trying to convince me to go back, I'm at my mums right now. He convinced me to be a SAHM what shit that turned out to be.