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[what2do1]

So ... my fiancé who is 12 years older than me (52) over the past few months we have gone from a Sex life of 4 + days a week to once a week.... He works hard as do I .. I still send him 'thinking of you texts 😉😉 he's in constant contact when we are at work, so I don't think there is anyone else... but by the time we have finished work cooked , eaten .showered.. come 9pm he's a zombie and falling asleep , I'm starting to feel unwanted, unattractive and not great... I've tried to spruce it up sending texts, doing myself up , but he gets in says he's knackered and that's it !! Is this it !!

He's said he's tired. He's had a hard day. Why does another person make you feel attractive and wanted?

I’m the similar age. The amount of times my partner and I have sex in the evening over the course of a year could be counted on the fingers of one hand with 4 to spare.

We have regular sex in the mornings.

But as PP said how you feel is really your problem. Once week is hardly a sexless relationship and if it makes you feel the way it does maybe ask yourself why.

Dont fall into the lazy mindset of
more sex = he fancies me lots
Less sex = he fancies me less

Life doesnt work like that

And to add, he has told you the reason and you don’t appear to be listening

Anything happened in the last few months, more hours or weight gain? can make people more tired than usual.

You are 40...he is 52. The same age difference as myself and my DP except I'm the 52yo. And I'm knackered...constantly. I work hard, I raise a family, I run a house....the last thing I'm thinking of at night when I crawl into my bed is sex

What job does he do , has his workload increased because of covid?

I think once a week is healthy. Speak to him about how you feel, he is the best person to reassure you x

I agree with pp. He’s 52, working long hours. I’m 42 and I’m shattered too!

Thanks ladies , I think my thumb engaged before my brain last night, laying there sulking and thought I'd post and ask , your all right , he's knackered as am I but I guess because we were so active and not so now it made me feel 'oh' maybe the morning sex will work thatl knacker him out for the day 😂 thanks ladies x

Maybe encourage him to have a couple of early nights at the start of the week and then do a date night in midweek.