Hi everyone,
So I’ve been dating a single dad for about 5/6 weeks. I don’t have any kids myself. There’s 5 years between us in age, and his child is 10 years old. We bubbled up pretty quick as, apart from his childcare bubble, we both live on our own. I have never dated someone with kids before so this is all new territory for me!
Although I do like him (aware it’s still early days), I keep getting told not to get involved with him by friends because of him being a father. They said it will just cause stress and I’ll never be a priority to him.
Apparently his relationship with his child’s mother is good (amicable) and there’s no drama so I wasn’t too worried about getting involved. They co parent too, so he has his kid 2-3 times a week and all he does is speak about her to me and has already stated asking for my opinion on things regarding her (which is think is mega cute, and tbh is a big reason why I’m attracted to him - he’s a good dad).
I wasn’t too worried about dating him to be honest as I’m quite chilled out and easy going, and to be honest we have spent a lot of time together since we first started speaking. However this past week I’ve hardly heard from him.
Normally I wouldn’t be too fussed about a break in communication (we’re adults, people have busy times in their life etc), but I guess with everyone telling me ‘this is what I mean’ ‘he won’t have time for you’ ‘you won’t be a priority’ ‘he’s probs still sleeping with his child’s mum’ etc has got me wondering a bit ... I actually feel ridiculous reading back what I’ve just written, but I’m just curious to hear from people who have been in a similar situation.
Can people who are childless and have dated single parents (currently dating or in the past) please let me know about your experiences ? Can it work ?