Friends

[Lovemakesworldgoround]

I need friends badly .. anyone know where to get any i have one thats it in the whole world. And I've saw her 2x in over year , we rarely txt either . I work but I've made no mates there in over a year even tho I have tried .

I am so lonely when oh at work .

I suppose it's not a great time atm because of Lock down but have you thought about joining something like a walking group or running group or taking up some sort of hobby?

If it helps I think a lot of people are feeling the same way. Lockdown is so hard.

Second the hobby idea. Is there anything you like to do (or have always wanted to try?) there are some great stitch/crochet places near me that do online things too.

But don't beat yourself up over it. It's not easy.

Even before lockdown I had none . I just wish I had a couple I could chat with or facetime even .

Its hard being adult with no1 to talk to about every day life

No I don't have confidence at moment to join a hobby . Just lately I feel like no1 likes me anyway so that making it worse .

I know what you mean. I wish I had a group I could just chill with, without having to get massively involved in each other’s lives etc, but just a group of nice people that I could chat to in the park and in the pub when we’re allowed. I have quite a lot of individual friends, but it takes a lot of effort to meet up and stay in touch (and they all have their local little groups/families who come first).

Someone i know mentioned they was doing zoom with there mates n having cocktails. I see people playing games over facetime. I would love anything like that 😪 just interaction off some mates would be nice .

What people say and reality are different things.
Would you really want to be knocking back highly alcoholic drinks over zoom with others? Would you want the hangover the next day?

If you would, ask if you can join in next time.

I know how you feel, I have a few friends but I'm not the go-to friend for anyone.

I've tried to make new friends, but I fund it really hard to gel.with people and I'm really crap at small talk. So unless I find someone with mutual interests, I really struggle.

But even then, no one is in the market for a new friends as at my age everyone already seems to have an established friend group.

@KirstenBlest

What people say and reality are different things. Would you really want to be knocking back highly alcoholic drinks over zoom with others? Would you want the hangover the next day?

If you would, ask if you can join in next time.

I dont mean got drunk over zoom but be nice to have drink n chat . Just friends to chat about day to day with.

I did say I wish I had mates to do that .

Yea def think by 30s a lot of friends are already made .

Join local groups online, volunteer for things that can be socially distant. Live your life. Go for a walk or run.

You may make friends, you might not. Life can surprise you and you might meet one person and find it opens a network.

I’m in exactly the same boat. I have one friend. I’ve no idea how to make more. I’ve trued. Evening classes, hobbies etc. Everyone already has their “tribe”. I’d be up for chatting if you want to message me OP

Don’t try to make friends.

Just aim to make simple frequent connections and acquaintances through dog walking, volunteering, hobbies etc.

From that friendships evolve.

@bombastical

I’m in exactly the same boat. I have one friend. I’ve no idea how to make more. I’ve trued. Evening classes, hobbies etc. Everyone already has their “tribe”. I’d be up for chatting if you want to message me OP

Thank u will message u in bit .

I have tried in past i went college and ive made friends in past threw work but then I lost them when left job .

I’m the same. Make friends at work but they only last as long as the job!