Why do I constantly worry?

[geordielass1980]

Long story short, met someone in October, and I've fell head over heels! But I constantly worry if he doesn't text back straight away or I keep thinking I have upset him.
Shared something on FB with him with a stupid nickname and now I think I've upset him as he hasn't text back, (hates social media)
And here I am wide awake, work first thing in the morning and worrying again.
To be fair it would be something else if it wasn't him.
I hate feeling like this! Any advice?

@Givemethechocolate

Try reading the book "attached" It was a eye opener for me

Thank you I will :)

@N4m3Change

This one?? X

Found it!!!

Without sounding horrible, you sound really intense. Started off that you were head over heels and then after badgering him for ignoring you, you say you want to end the relationship.

You tagged him in a post that he didn't like and because he didn't reply straight away you've taken umbridge.

Anxiety is horrible but you need to learn coping strategies that don't involve making yourself look silly or unhinged, as he's probably sat today thinking WTF.

@combatbarbie

Without sounding horrible, you sound really intense. Started off that you were head over heels and then after badgering him for ignoring you, you say you want to end the relationship.

You tagged him in a post that he didn't like and because he didn't reply straight away you've taken umbridge.

Anxiety is horrible but you need to learn coping strategies that don't involve making yourself look silly or unhinged, as he's probably sat today thinking WTF.

Hello it was the ignoring texts not a FB status, which doesn't just happen last night it is sometimes every weekend, So last night was just the tip of the iceburgh

I think it's worth mentioning that we can change our attachment styles. Secure is where we would all like to be, and we can move closer to that by working on ourselves.

For me (also anxiously attached) it really was, though, about recognising not that I had to change myself, but that I had to find people who suited me.

I remember sitting in the room with my counsellor and saying 'So, basically, I've come here every week for a year and paid you all that money, all to learn that there's nothing wrong with me, and I don't need a counsellor.' I had recognised what I needed to change about myself: my partner.

Hello it was the ignoring texts not a FB status, which doesn't just happen last night it is sometimes every weekend

Well that little nugget of information changes things slightly. What are his reasons for ignoring you at weekends?

@Aquamarine1029

You need to get professional help to deal with your anxieties and to understand where they are coming from. If you don't, you will continue this destructive cycle, and you definitely deserve to live without this burden.

I agree completely. You've hit the nail on the head yourself.