Does it happen to you to go to bed as same time of your partner, I mean starting the night "together" or it's mission impossible ???????

[Summerfruitfullofscaryworms]

I know I cant expect that every night but I dont know...2 or 3 night out of 7...it's not too much to ask no ??? I'm doing anything I can for him not to have to do much at evening but still he always find the way not being with me..and I mean I go to bed at 10-10.30 ish...it's the only time in which we can demonstrate affection to each other but no he never seems to be here..I'm sorry for the rant, I'm just feeling rejected by my husband...yesterday we had a good evening and at the moment I tought he was going to go to bed with me..he left the room to go downstair for doing it whatever he was doing...I'm fed up.

Your not alone, me and my dh are ship passing in the night.

He's on the net(usually ebay) me on the sofa asleep

I'm on ebay he's asleep.

We are both on the sofa asleep.

We never ever go to bed at the same time.

If you get any responses I will be watching keenly for suggestions.
Gosh I sound blardy mis.

You need not to assume, you need to TELL him you want to spend the evening together...or it will become the way of life.

We are similar in a way, but that is generally because I am always tired and dh has trouble sleeping. I tend to go to bed about 9pm once everything is cleaned up and ready for the morning, he will sometimes come up and watch tv with me/chat/etc for an hour or so, then often will get up and go to his study to work, play poker etc and I usually fall asleep with the tv on.

I agree. Tell your husband that you want to go to bed together and stay in bed at least X nights a week and stick to it, even keep to a particular day or days if needs be. Talk to him. Keeping quiet and bottling it up only makes things worse.

we get into bed together at least 6 nights out of 7. have to say that it's my doing. dh is a dairy farmer and is up at 4 so always goes to bed at 10. I usually go with him!

Charliecat, result! IYSWIM!

Excellent... Wanders off enviously...
So next time your feeling like this TELL him...or make that weekend a weekend of effort...Well Done and

Cheeset wanders off all cocky(literally!) ooohhhh.