Tinder? Old?

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So newly single after 8yrs split last year summer. Literally just signed up for tinder (46 likes apparently in less than 5mins) 🙄 I'm not confident in myself don't think I'm great looking single mum to three children stretch marks galore.

I don't even know what I was thinking signing up for it maybe a distraction? I don't even know if I want a relationship or if I'm just missing company? Also why do you need to sign up for gold to see who liked you? I think I've lost my mind. Definitely not looking for a casual hook up but the thought of being alone scares me I'm only 31 and feel like I have lost everything. Please tell me am I crazy joining tinder? Would you recommend another site?

Also, for my bio I had a short list of my favourite things then "what are your top 3 favourite things?" That worked quite well because a lot of men would message to chat about one of the things I'd listed or would answer the question which led to a conversation rather than the usual "Hi, how are you?" type openers. Similarly near Christmas I asked in my bio "Who was your top artist on your Spotify wrapped?" because that had just been released and I got loads of people messaging to speak about that. So I would definitely advise on having a question in your bio that could lead to a decent conversation. It also lets you know whether or not they've bothered to read your bio!

I'm on a paid site and there are plenty just looking for a hook up. I dip in and out. I find it to depressing otherwise.

I'm engaged to my tinder bloke. Not every on e on there is dodgy