DP kicked down doors

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DP and I just had a tiny spat that just exploded. Started with me asking him a question, he said he couldn’t hear me and I repeated 5 times before i got arsey and said turn the tv down then. He did finally and I said it didn’t matter now. From here he just lost it , followed me upstairs, telling me to leave he’s done etc , he’s screaming so I go into the spare room and lock the door. He breaks it down and I told him I can’t leave as all my clothes are in the wash and I’m only wearing a jumper. He says he doesn’t care, just screaming at me and I’m shaking. He asks why I’m shaking and I feel embarrassed so I go into the bedroom and he breaks down that door too.

I have no money to travel anywhere not that I can, only family is strained relationship and they’re isolating with Covid, it’s his house and I’m just a permitted occupant so I have no rights about living here.

I can’t leave at all as genuinely all clothes are stuck in a fucking wash.

If you are in danger from him best get out even half naked, maybe wrap yourself in a towel? then call the police from the road, they can collect you and bring a blanket etc

You can stop the washing machine. After a few minutes the door will release so just above your clothes in a bag. Gather your things and get it of the house now and can women's aid once your outside. Launderettes are open so go sit in one and dry your clothes while you deal with women's aid?

But yes it you think you're in danger leave straight away and don't worry about possessions

Call 999

Ring the police if you aren't safe. He is abusing you.

Call the police they will likely take him away that gives you a few hours to sort clothes. Call shelter and/or women's aid.

covid restrictions don't apply when you need to go somewhere for your safety

Op this is not safe for you, you must end this.

Put on something of his and go, beg a sofa stay from a friend or aquaintance for tonight and call womans aid.

Otherd will know more but I believe you may also be able to get money to help with travel in this situation

@MaskingForIt wind in the victim blaming, theres a dear

OP, please get out, he has shown violent behaviour.

@MaskingForIt
Seriously! Talk about victim blaming.

He is threatening her physical safety and throwing her out of her home, it’s hardly a proportionate response.

OP if you feel unsafe please call the police.

0808 247 2000 - Domestic abuse helpline

Get out now. Is there a Boots chemist you can get to. Ask for their safe space.

Are you still there,OP?
I would say try everything you can to find a safe place ASAP.
Don't want to exaggerate but if he is reacting in such a way when you have a ''tiny spat'' it will only get worse,not better.It looks like he is quite unpredictable and cannot control his aggression.
Please,contact Women's Aid and the police if you feel you are unsafe and in danger.

Sorry helpline is 0808 2000 247

I hope you're ok OP?

Leave in the clothes you stand in if needs be (chuck a random summer skirt/shorts on?).

Go to the local police station or call women's aid once you are out.

Everyone has rows but his reaction to a minor disagreement is absurd and dangerous imo.

I'm confused - have the police refused to come out then?

You need to leave. Now. You are not safe in that house.

Call the police to help you. Call Women's Aid too.

Op are you ok? Have you managed to get out ? X

Can you contact women's aid?

Just so I don’t worry anyone I’m okay. I’m still here.

OP, have you talked to the police or women's aid?

Hope the police have taken him now

If you are still there with him, you are not ok. You need to take steps, please.