What do you and your OH do in the evenings?

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Just that really?
Do you sit down together? Spend time apart? Talk? Watch TV together?

Right now, we mainly work, because of homeschooling.

In more normal times, sometimes we work. If we’re not, we usually watch TV together, chat a bit. Occasionally one of us will go and read or similar.

Usually watch tv together, sometimes play board games with the kids, sometimes karaoke but usually just chill together binge watching whatever series we've stumbled across.

Watch tv together

DH does most of the cooking, so I chill out on the recliner in the kitchen and chat/listen to music with him. Then we eat in the lounge, watch TV, chat, send each other dream properties and discuss retiring very early! If the weather is decent, we take the dogs out for a little leg stretch.

Sit in separate rooms - I love it !

He's working in the study.

I'm reading in the study with a film on in the background.

I'm usually in the living room instead but my brother bought me a Fire Stick for my birthday so I can come in here.

Pre Covid we used to be out quite a bit (separately ), I would meet friends, seemed to have endless committee meetings, Book Club -DH would play golf, go fishing, meet his mates in the pub. We might occasionally go to the cinema or out for a meal/drink together.

Now ... we eat together, drink too much wine and try to find something on tv we both enjoy ..... hopefully when the weather warms up we will go for an evening walk. Find evenings quite tedious to be honest . We are at home together all day - DH WFH & I am furloughed so we are together nearly all the time and have run out of things to talk about .....

Sit next to each other on our phones not watching whatever we've put on the TV mostly, I thought that was life

Sometimes he games and I read.

Talk, watch a lot of tv, read books, work on our business, have sex, drink coffee.

Depends on the day - Watch things together, do things separately, play card games.
Tonight we put together a new chair then made the foam packaging into spears and fought eachother

Mostly watch tv.

DH just continues to work now that he’s WFH as he’s a workaholic and won’t stop. Plus he doesn’t have a ‘finishing time’ like I do. I try to drag him out for a walk if I can but I’m rarely successful. I do some exercise, have a shower and mumsnet or read 🥱

Put the kids to bed. Repeatedly.

I like to sit in the corner with a cardboard box over my head in absolute silence.

He watches the news.

Repeat tomorrow.

Sit in the conservatory on our laptops and then one of us makes dinner and we debate over what to watch for 10 minutes and then sit and watch TV for a few hours.

Sometimes watch TV or a film together.

Sometimes he'll play on the PlayStation or his guitar and I'll watch something he doesn't like, do a puzzle, listen to podcasts, read, play on the Switch, have a bath or whatever I fancy.

Sometimes we just put music on and chat or play board games or do jigsaw puzzles.

Tonight we've had dinner, watched a bit of TV and both come to bed at 9.30 to read or in my case browse Mumsnet.

Cook, talk, have sex, do yoga or work out together, watch TV together, study or write separately, socialise virtually mostly separately but very occasionally together. Very occasionally one of us will go out for a run - we have young DC so one of us has to stay home. In the olden days you could add socialising separately and occasionally going out together.

Watch Netflix, or he’ll play Xbox whilst I read/do crafty things. Talk a lot. Or he’ll be scrolling on Reddit and be showing me funny memes every 5 minutes whilst I try to do my own thing. Sometimes we bake late at night whilst the kids are asleep so they have cookies/cakes ready for the next day.

After DC have gone to bed, cook dinner & any family admin, then watch TV together, stuff on our phones & our current favourite playing Hyrule Champions on the Switch.
Occasionally we need to do a bit of catch-up work but try not to.

As a sample I guess, tonight we put the DC to bed together, then he cooked and I sat at the counter and talked to him, then we ate together and watched some TV, now he's having a virtual drink with someone and I'm in the bath. Last night we did yoga together and then he studied the online course he's doing for his passion and I wrote (my passion).

We eat together every evening unless he's on lates, in which case it's just me and DD. We like cooking together, but during the week we just take turns, plus we have the world's smallest kitchen now, so less fun to cook together. Usually we watch a bit of telly together, or play cards, or do a puzzle. Sometimes we just chat , or he goes and works on his model tanks for a bit and I just read.

In normal times, we try to get out for dinner every couple of weeks, and go to pub quiz together. We'll never set the world on fire, but we love just hanging around with each other.

Watch TV, cook, talk, have sex ... mostly.

My OH goes to bed at 8pm

He sits in the kitchen watching football and I lie in the bedroom reading. Its hugely exciting

Varys, at times it's model making, warhammer 40k, then making magic the gathering decks, usually PlayStation is YouTube for documentaries, then some reading of research on different scientific and construction topics

DH usually goes for a run & has a shower while I start dinner. We finish cooking dinner together, have a glass of wine, and eat together. DH does the dishes, while I have a shower. We find something on tv to watch together (sometimes fall asleep on the sofa) go to bed, have sex (not always but sometimes).

On weekends, similar routine but we have quite a few drinks, often a take away. Skip watching TV, listen to music and talk nonsense instead and then sex takes up more if the evening and is more energetic.

(It hasn't always been like this, a while ago our marriage was in crises and we'd each depart to separate rooms to watch our own TV's, or be out with our own friends doing our own thing....we've worked a lot on us since then)