Don’t mention the jasmine!

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

Can’t believe I’m onto my third thread.

Previous one here

Been packing the car to go to the tip. It’s rammed! Cat has been out for the first time and thankfully returned.

Greatly enjoyed my walks this weekend. Got an 8 miler in yesterday but the best part was coming back, lighting the fire and getting into a hot bath. Had a zoom with friends last night, touch too much red wine, but it was so much fun.

You’re all right re the petition. It doesn’t matter, he’s just jackbooting. Someone asked what I’d put in, sorry but I’m not comfortable sharing that at present, been advised to keep it to myself whilst it’s ongoing.

Geller is, however, incredulous that I’m not willing to carry on sharing Amazon Prime and Music Unlimited.

The weighted blankets have arrived so I’m just about to go sort out the laundry and the girls run. Been enjoying Radio 2’s musical weekend, but I can’t understand how Steve Wright is still on.

Tip run, then they come back. Roast chicken with bread sauce and roast gnocchi and board games this afternoon in front of the fire I think. Sounds like he’s been running them ragged, lots of walks etc which is good as means I don’t need to!

How’s everyone else spending their Sunday?

he is probably hoping that the sorry will make you do what he wants

Agreed, he knows apologizing gives him a likelihood of you swopping days.
In theory swopping days could be mutually useful, BUT not an order & not every week... also, the DD need a routine,
He wants 50/50, He's going to have to learn how hard it is !

Well THAT was a triumph of hope over optimism.

He has just realised he needs to take time off in the Easter holidays to have them on his days.

Ahahahahahaha.

Didn’t last long, did it?!

Had formal acknowledgment from the solicitor that the petition has been acknowledged, we’re all waiting for his proposal to come back now. I hope his solicitor has talked some sense into him. We shall see.

Plus I’ve been very grown up and sorted out life insurance and critical cover, so the kids will be ok financially if anything happens to me.

Having a bit of a COVID low day. I just want normal life back. To be able to meet friends and family and plan trips. So I’ve made a nice cheesecake for pudding and I’m about to go for a walk in the sun before pick up. Whilst I’m out I might find my get up and go, which seems to have got up and gone.

Cheesecake! Brilliant idea!! It's yonks since I made a cheesecake.

Could you check to make sure my get up and go isn't hiding behind your get up and go in the bushes? Because it's sure as all get out not in my vicinity.

LOL, these concepts are all very new to him, aren't they?

@StuckInPollyannaMode

Well the sleeping isn’t going too well. Obviously. DD1 has, of course, gone to sleep in her own bed tonight for the first time in a month.

@Sicario when I started c25k (is excellent, highly recommend, get your music on and get going to Sarah Millican!) I used to wear 2 sports bras - one over the other. Yes, you need to wrestle your way into them - in my case like a sausage going back into the tube - but the difference a proper sports bra makes is incredible. My ultimate goal is to buy ones that zip up the front so I can stop dislocating my shoulders. I have several from sports direct and decathalon (LOVE decathlon) as I refuse to pay masses for them. I kind of bend and scoop my boobs into it, hoick them up - they are pretty much strapped under my chin holding my head up 😂

I don’t even think it merits a response does it? I mean, he’s quite clearly bonkers. That’s not even the most explosive bit! I’m torn between finding it over the top and funny or angry that he thinks that he can once again bully me into what he wants.

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There will also be issues with the school liaison book (not sure of the name) homework etc. special events at school, plays, sports, requirements
I believe there is an on line planner for divorced parents with kids, (don't know what its called, but someone will probably come on & help.)
So that he can check that, & add to it, rather than needing to constantly check with you, & screwing up
ah, here you go: www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/2004742/best-co-parenting-apps/

Geller having to take official time off to parent his kids? That will definitely have come as a shock. Men just don't get it until they're force to. That's why only 2% of them take shared parental leave. Raising kids is women's work.

Poor sausage - I wonder how he's going to feel about the summer holidays...

In other news I weight myself this morning. I've put on a stone in 2 months.

Yup summer holidays are going to give him a heart attack. Depending on the school he's going to need a lot of extra leave.

I've used 2 houses, it's pretty good particularly for doing scheduling. But it's not cheap so everyone needs to be on board with using it.

Ooo cheesecake .... darn it Polly!!! I’m trying to shift the 3/4 of a stone I’ve put on since Christmas and I’m constantly sodding hungry plus not doing the school run means getting my steps in is an effort!

Why did he tell you he needed to take time off? Nothing to do with you

Please tell me you ignored his message?

I haven’t replied, just laughed at it! 48 hour rule firmly in place.

Thanks for tip off about the app, I’ll have a look. Given his epic failure to use a family calendar, either digital or paper, for the past 8 years I’m not holding out much hope though!

In bed tent news - it’s finally arrived - DD1 is delighted and tonight...roll of drums please...I HAVE HAD A BATH IN PEACE!!

The girls went happily to bed at 8, no one got up again, no one argued...they just went to sleep.

I had a lime and soda in a candlelit bath to celebrate.

I have also put on weight 😤 and failed to find your get up and go @mbosnz - sorry, it must still be hiding with mine. I find that because I don’t always have my phone on me that my steps are lower, but then I never get around to wearing my Fitbit.

Now, how are we feeling about the Harry and Meghan interview? I cringed my way through the first 6 minutes of James Cordens interview with him, so I’m not sure how I’ll get on with Oprah (and I love JC)

Good for you @DartmoorDoughnut - keep up the resolve (kids decided they didn’t like the cheesecake halfway through their pieces and I ate theirs too because I just can’t abide the waste in spite of the impact on my waist)

@SpringCrocus he sent an email checking on arrangements ‘Now, as x day is a holiday, I assume you will bring them to me at 6pm, and I’ll drop them back to you in the morning’

No, sunshine, you have them from 3.15pm until 3.15 the next day.

@StuckInPollyannaMode 😂😂😂😂😂 even though you spelt it out at mediation he didn't listen did he!!!!

‘As x day is one of your contact days I assume you’re joking’

Well done!

"You know what they say about assumption, Motherfucker!"

I for one am looking forward to the Oprah hagiography interview. I might even go mad and have a little tray of snacks at the ready.

@RandomMess I know!

I would totally have a tray of snacks and a little snifter, but I don’t think I can bear to stay up to 1.30am...isn’t that when it’s being aired?

DD was in my bed from midnight. She’s like a homing pigeon.

I couldn’t watch the JC one - well I could but my DH turned it off 🙄😂 although he served with H in Afghanistan so that’s probably why he’s not keen! - think I’ll have to wait until it’s aired over here, not sure I have the stamina to stay until 1:30!

Christ on A bike, is he really that stupid?
Is probably a good reply

@Sunbird24

‘As x day is one of your contact days I assume you’re joking’

This!!! You've got to admire his sheer persistence at maintaining that he wants them both 50/50 and yet also for you to be default 100% parent. The cognitive dissonance is strong with this one.

Like a lot of absent fathers, he seems to think the children live in a box ready to be brought out when he's done with work. He needs a nanny to dress them, teach them to use cutlery, and bring them down to say goodnight while they have their tea in the nursery.

'Never assume. It makes an ass out of u and me.'

1.30am? What the deuce? It better bloody be on catch-up or I'm screwed. I've not been able to keep my eyes open past 11pm for years.