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Is he being unreasonable?

87 replies

Boston2010 · 29/01/2021 16:02

I have been seeing someone since around December (we both live alone so have bubbled), things have been going really well but today he was being rude and abrupt. After asking several times, he admitted it was because he was annoyed at some posts from my social media (from before I met him!) where I was with other men Confused none of them are exes, all just friends. I explained that to him and he is now not responding to my messages, it’s really stressful.

Wtf is going on? We get on really well and I feel our relationship has a lot of potential but I’m so confused and he is treating me as if I have done something wrong. Sad

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Ostryga · 01/02/2021 19:21

God that was a lucky escape. Make sure he’s blocked everywhere, and well done for questioning his behaviour. Even if you didn’t immediately see it as a red flag, you know enough to ask on here. That’s a good first step.

ilikemethewayiam · 02/02/2021 00:45

PROJECTION! He’s describing himself! Abusers are nothing if not predictable!

You dodged a bullet big time. Take a deep breath, block everywhere and forget he ever existed. Move on. Good luck.

londonscalling · 02/02/2021 03:50

You've been together less than two months. He's controlling already! Stay away!!!!

BlueThistles · 02/02/2021 03:56

well done for getting rid of Him.... You don't explain yourself to anyone OP.. over the past present or future.. he sounded so very controlling manipulative and abusive.. you did right 🌺

Eekay · 02/02/2021 03:58

Shows you can trust your instincts OP. You knew straight away he was a wrong'un. I think you just needed a bit of back up.
Don't let this git rattle you too much.
Happier days ahead now!

OldAndWornOut · 02/02/2021 04:11

At least you're saved from giving him the benefit of the doubt.

ItisLikethis · 02/02/2021 06:51

OMG. He's even worse than I thought. He is deranged!! Well rid!!

ItisLikethis · 02/02/2021 06:52

OP Flowers Well done x

WhatWouldZenoDo · 02/02/2021 07:45

@Boston2010

He also tried to make out that me having an issue with his actions was me being incredibly insecure, needy, and paranoid Confused
Wow, well done for trusting your gut.
WhatWouldZenoDo · 02/02/2021 07:48

This type does project. Years and years after i left my x he sent a letter to our dc1 talking about my twisted ways. Theyy never have an epiphany. They just keep dating until they meet somevody damaged enough to put up with their anger and low self esteem

SimplyRadishing · 02/02/2021 07:53

Wow wow wow.
How the fuck do you think he squares this batshittery off in his head???

Delighted you are well out of it OP. What a nutter!!!

frozendaisy · 02/02/2021 10:37

You weren't available at exactly 3pm yet you are the needy one?

Lucky escape.

It's good he doesn't think he can be with you (ha ha ha).

Keep running the other way.

There should be a national database for these guys, Red Flag List!

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