I have a situation that's been going on for a few years and yesterday it came to a head. My husband has a female friend and I am very unhappy with it due to certain behaviours from him around this friendship. I must stress that normally I am not an insecure or jealous person and never have been before but something in my gut tells me that this is something different. I do not believe he is cheating on me but after speaking with his business partner when I first felt uneasy about it, found out that they are quite flirty with each other. She works for the business next door so pops into his business. It all started as he was going to change his day off to take our son out with her and her son and as we both used to have the same day off, this would've meant not having a family day together. There were a couple of other instances where he went out of his way to do something for her. I told him I was uncomfortable with him doing that as if I ask him to do something it's normally met with a grumble. They would message each other maybe asking how each other was, he let her park at his business as where she works has no staff parking (space that is needed for his own customers). I told him all of this made me very uneasy and asked him to stop. Thought he had but then found he was deleting messages as he didn't want the "3rd degree", so we argued about it, thought he had listened and then found he had just changed her name in his phone. I'd asked him to take her off social media and then a few months later found he's added her back on, said she had requested him which was a lie - he had actively sought her out to add her. His excuse was as it was all months ago (at that time) so he thought it was ok. I told him he had to choose between his friendship with her and me. He left for the weekend but said it was because "I had changed since the birth of our son" which is a cop out to me. We worked things out and he came back home but the issue of them messaging has come up a few times since and he's never really stopped but the latest was a couple of days ago and I know that he normally deletes the messages between them. He doesn't feel that he has done anything wrong but I feel so disrespected by it. I know he hasn't cheated on me with her but why can he not see why I have a problem with it? I have no problem with any other female friends he has, just this one in particular due to his behaviour towards her. If he's deleting messages, surely he must know it's not on? He says he does it to stop me giving him grief over it but surely the answer is to simply not do it to begin with?