Someone please help me. Bottom of be barre despair here.

[iwanteggfriedricefuckingpronto]

Just need someone to support me through this. I've posted at least a handful of times on here about the cockwomble I call a partner. Under different names because I'm fucking ashamed.

I'm so so so unhappy. Beyond unhappy. This man has ruined me. I want out. If I leave he has to stay while he finds somewhere else to live because his mothers an alcoholic and he can't see his daughter if he goes back there. I don't want a sob story but a blunt and brief back ground:

He was to go to prison 9 months ago for assault, criminal damage and coersion. I changed my statement. We got back together. I found something I didn't like, ordered him to leave resulting in the damage and assault, coersion was already going on.

Been together 17 months. Been through more shit than many.

He has a child, I have two.

I've found a house to move to. The house he lives In with me is purely mine. I have t told him I'm going ahead with the move.

From what I can remember, my previous names on here are coffeecoffeemorecoffee, princessconsuelabananahommock1 or 2 I'm not sure. Amongst others that I can't remember. Posting these because I name change through my embarrassment but I fucking need someone to tell me to sort this out. I'm so so so so so very unhappy. I want this man out of my house. It's getting messier by the day.

Someone please help me. I need courage, I need encouragement. I'm a strong woman but I'm so alone.

I just want to leave.

Please

Why on earth are you allowing him to stay in your home whilst you move?? This is madness and must not happen.

Call the police and get the fucker out.

You are not his keeper. You are not his parent. I remember your previous posts.

Him having nowhere to go is not your problem. Call someone to remove him.

When are you due to move?

You’re only with him 17 months???
Call the police and get him out!
Your poor children

Due to move in March. My children are so excited. My eldest has expressed multiple times she wants it to
Be just me, her and her sister. I can't ignore that

I just feel bad for
His daughter

You "changed your statement" - does this mean you lied to the police for him?

When you say "he has ruined me" I think you are right. But it is your choice whether to let him go on doing this. If you are afraid to leave him and get your own life again, then there are agencies who can help protect you. But go you must, if you are ever to hold your head up again and retain your pride. I am sure you can do this.

Your priority is your DC. Move for them. Separate from him for them. His DD presumably has a DM who will look out for the girl.

Please.

Due to move in March. My children are so excited. My eldest has expressed multiple times she wants it to Be just me, her and her sister. I can't ignore that

You don't have to ignore this but you can not leave this waster in possession of your home. I'm sorry to be harsh, op, but you have got to pull yourself together and start using your head for the sake of your children, not his. He has to go NOW. Take control and end this.

With all due respect, your primary responsibility is to your children. His daughter’s sad situation isn’t your responsibility. You need to get rid of this guy and then do the Freedom Programme. ASAP.

Thank you so much for replying. I need this. He basically called me fat earlier then claims "you know I'm not like that!!!" Wouldn't kind but he's hardly anything to write home about. I'm fucking miserable

I've been advised to go to women's aid but I feel a fraud. I feel there's women out there that need it more than me

You are at risk

Your kids are at risk

Go back to the police tell them the truth

You are in danger

You sound like you need to speak to woman’s aid. You came on here asking for help and support- that’s exactly what you’ll find at woman’s aid.

Please act now to protect your children. If he won't leave your home, call the police. You're the adult here.

He has till March to find himself somewhere to live. That’s loads of time. If he hasn’t anywhere after that then it’s his choice to be homeless. Not. Your. Fault.

But that’s irrelevant really, if he’s that bad just tell him yo go next weekend.

Stop dithering, stop making excuses, and stop believing you aren't worthy of help. Get this fucked out NOW. Please start setting a good example for your children.

@iwanteggfriedricefuckingpronto

I've been advised to go to women's aid but I feel a fraud. I feel there's women out there that need it more than me

You clearly need it op. Or he would be long gone already

So is your home getting sold or are you currently renting and then will be renting somewhere else in March?

You're all right

Also 'fuckthisforabarrelofbiscuits'

You're all right

Yes, we are, so do what you know you need to do and put your children's welfare first. You can't hide from your responsibilities for even one more day. Call the police, tell them the truth, and get him out.

He put a lighter to your genitalia. For gods sake get rid of him.

Move him out asap. It is not your issue if he gets to see his daughter, has to live with his mother or couch surf. Stop solving his problems for him and look after yourself.

Thank you. I feel like bursting into tears but there's nothing left