Someone please help me. Bottom of be barre despair here.

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Just need someone to support me through this. I've posted at least a handful of times on here about the cockwomble I call a partner. Under different names because I'm fucking ashamed.

I'm so so so unhappy. Beyond unhappy. This man has ruined me. I want out. If I leave he has to stay while he finds somewhere else to live because his mothers an alcoholic and he can't see his daughter if he goes back there. I don't want a sob story but a blunt and brief back ground:

He was to go to prison 9 months ago for assault, criminal damage and coersion. I changed my statement. We got back together. I found something I didn't like, ordered him to leave resulting in the damage and assault, coersion was already going on.

Been together 17 months. Been through more shit than many.

He has a child, I have two.

I've found a house to move to. The house he lives In with me is purely mine. I have t told him I'm going ahead with the move.

From what I can remember, my previous names on here are coffeecoffeemorecoffee, princessconsuelabananahommock1 or 2 I'm not sure. Amongst others that I can't remember. Posting these because I name change through my embarrassment but I fucking need someone to tell me to sort this out. I'm so so so so so very unhappy. I want this man out of my house. It's getting messier by the day.

Someone please help me. I need courage, I need encouragement. I'm a strong woman but I'm so alone.

I just want to leave.

So you are moving in March. Are you giving up a rental or selling a house? Hopefully you are renting because then he will have to get out. At that point you and your DDs move to your new house and he fucks off to wherever. It is not your responsibility to put a roof over his head. He has to sort that out for himself.

No he won't be coming with me. And yes I'm renting

OP please be careful. He's now got 6 weeks to try to change your mind.. he will be using every trick in the book...don't fall for any of it!

You've given him too long. He will think he doesnt need to do anything.

Has he made any attempt to find somewhere to live today?

You said it's your place you live in now, you are renting it in your name, I assume his name isn't on the tenancy so if you called the police they could make him leave, hopefully someone else can confirm this is true.
And who cares if he has to sleep in a ditch, he is not your problem.

Your poor children. You are supposed to be their mother.

You will be back together before the weekend is out

Is your children’s father on the scene? They would be safer with him probably.

Why haven't you asked him to leave?

@AtlasPine

With all due respect, your primary responsibility is to your children. His daughter’s sad situation isn’t your responsibility. You need to get rid of this guy and then do the Freedom Programme. ASAP.

This.

Make him leave! It's yours and your childrens home not his 😡

@Cantbbothered

Your poor children. You are supposed to be their mother.

Not true. I feel such a weight has been lifted and I've wanted out of this relationship for a very long time. There's not a chance I'm going back!

Of course you feel sorry for him OP. He's spent his life playing the victim. I guarantee that if you fuck him out now, he'll find another woman who feels sorry for him and will be out of his ma's in 3 weeks, cuckooing with her until she fucks him out. Or not.

He's a waste of your energy, your actual children want rid, you want rid. Get him out asap. He won't be homeless, he can stay with his mum.