Online dating in your 40s - part 3!

[StarlightSparkle]

A new thread, so we can continue discussing the depressing reality of the above!

I've registered for fb dating today. I've received no initial messages, but messaged 3 myself, one seems keen to chat, said we're getting on well, but soooo slow. I ask questions and get very short answers back. I don't think I'll give him much longer. Another very nice looking guy not too far away, but looking for something casual, I'm probably interpreting that correctly, will see what he says though.

Ugh at all these updates. @Shayelle2009 maybe just take it as a weekly catch up with a friend and who knows? You could have been feeling like it needed to be something more and then that made it seem less than that, if that makes any sense? If anything does come of it it’s a good starting block anyway. Keep your options open.

@pineappleonpizzaornot that sounds horrible, glad you are starting to feel better.

@OutingMyself imagine deleting someone because they asked to meet! What’s he on a dating app for?!?

Hey everyone sorry it seems to be a crap day today.
Thanks for the kind words @OutingMyself and @onemorerose.. I just cant really be bothered with a weekly scheduled catch up talking about mundane day to day crap. I know its really negative of me but Ive got enough mates and just find things like that a chore. I know that sounds mean! 🤷🏼‍♀️

I had a few wines and messaged him saying he doesn't need to worry about these weekly things and i dont need to be checked up on, and he said he likes catching up with someone outside his team. I just cant be arsed with it ... its so meh. 😕 think ill just decline the other catch ups tomorrow!

Hi @Angelofdeath hows your day been? Thanks for asking... its just odd how it was so cool last week and such a damp squib (sp?!?) today, I feel flat lol.
Sounds like yours is as exciting as ever too!! What are we like lol!!!!

Hmmmm this is what im thinking. Like im some weekly entertainment.

What sites are people using? In the past I used Bumble and Tinder but they seem rubbish now. Same faces plus just so blah. I just had a quick nosey today and everything seems rubbish.

Its ok as now i dont need to bother trying to tart myself up once a week, declined the series of catch ups! He must have been watching for it as he rung me straight away i didnt bother answering. Nothing to say?!?

Ooooh isnt it just the best when you spy a hotty out and about and theres a bit of eye contact! Picks you right up i find. And the cold air and brightness makes the skin look all nice and fresh! Bet he was checking you out!! 🥰

Im with you @Eesha sick of them all and not on anything!

I'm not finding it amazing. Plenty on there, some seem ok, but only one really wanted to chat and he's boring, barely asks anything, barely answers anything. The casual guy blocked me after I said I didn't want just sex 😆 Fair enough. Not one messaged me first. I'm not a model but I think I look ok, I've had compliments before. Oh well.

@Shayelle2009 im going to sound hugely arrogant but I consider myself and my friends great catches. Whereas for example on Tinder, I swiped on a few 'ok' blokes and it popped up that they were 'popular' swipes! So made me think everyone is trying to get a date with like 0.001% of the men on Tinder. I feel I should get out there but am just sitting here looking at recipes.

Not arrogant at all @Eesha and i think your theory is 100% accurate.
I realised today that i spend most of my free time thinking about food... the rest of it about people! Not a lot else to do right now is there. At least food makes us happy! (me anyway!)

Sounds horrendous @Zoomme dont let any of it knock your confidence. Its 100% them being shit.

@Angelofdeath

Does your policeman have two boys and a girl?

Well i wish that for all of us on here!! And theyd all be nice, kind and not have weird bathrooms haha!

You just made me think of last time that happened to me! I was walking along the coast and a nice looking guy with a boy gave me the eye! I kind of hoped we’d chatting but it just doesn't easily happen does it?!?

These sound like right out of a movie scene lol. Wouldn’t it be wonderful! The only men that catch my eye at the moment are outside the shops and one asked me where I lived, and on the way out said maybe I’ll visit you later. Who said romance is dead 😂🙈

At least the 2nd one is literate!! Message him saying hi.. go on

@Angelofdeath 😆😆😆 that's great! I don't understand why they don't read what they've written either, it's almost as if they don't care what impression they make 🤔 ... and no interests? Again, put a bit of effort into it, we can't mind read!

So Mr boring has messaged saying "how are you?". I'm inclined to give him one more chance. Any suggestions on how to get him talking, leading questions to ask? Yesterday I asked what he likes to eat, he said anything, I asked what he'd do if he could go anywhere now, he said go for a walk, the answers I'm getting are short, and then he just asks, "and you?" Barely comments on my replies.