How would you feel if you overheard this conversation

[Tetley08]

How would you feel if you overheard a conversation between your husband and one of his best friends where your husband basically told his friend his sex love was shit. They then went on to discuss having a threesome (husband, friend and friends wife). Husband seemed really keen. The next day husband claimed it was just drunk banter and played down the whole thing. It didn’t sound like a one off conversation, it sounded like something they’d talked about before. I feel humiliated & embarrassed.

I’d be looking to get out of the marriage. How embarrassing. Plus he’s planning to cheat. Might as well call it a day now

It would be the end for me.

He'd be gone!

I'd be feeling very sad that I was married to an utter scumbucket.

I’d feel betrayed and would be questioning the future of my marriage.

I wouldn't accept that as drunk banter. I'm married and had several relationships and I've never came across a conversation like that. The threesome MIGHT have been a joke that went too far, it
would make me feel very uncomfortable though, I also really don't like the idea of offering up a woman as a potential sexual partner when she wasn't even there? And when he critisised your love life? Where's the joke in that? I'm sorry you had to tolerate hearing that conversation.

I'd be feeling like I wanted him to be my ex husband.

I would feel he isn’t very supportive telling people about our private life.

I would also feel I couldn’t trust him as his discussing having sex with other people, that’s cheating!

I would tell his friend's wife of this drunken banter. If my DH was offering me up as part of a threesome, I would want to know.

I would feel like seeing a divorce lawyer. Tomorrow.

It would be the end for me also

I'd start planning how I was going to leave him.

I’d say you overheard your husband planning to cheat in real time. You heard that convo yourself OP, so you can tell if it’s drunken banter or not. But that’s not the issue here- he’s planning to cheat.

I would end the relationship. I don't say that lightly, he has been vile.

He didn't just talk about the threesome, he said you had shit sex.

Partners aren't meant to be horrible about you behind your back.

He sounds like a prick.

He’d have his bags packed....

Yes I plan to leave this year. I feel betrayed and utterly humiliated. This is not an isolated incident and I’ve stayed too long as it is. I know in my heart that it’s over but leaving and making it official is very difficult for me. I’m heartbroken for the marriage I thought I’d have. If I stayed I’d be expected to socialise with this ‘friend’ and his wife. I never want to see this ‘friend’ again. The conversation keeps replaying in my head and it really gives me the creeps.
Thank you for all your replies, I’ve been feeling really upset about it but a little voice in my head sometimes tells me I’m over reacting.

Yes pack his bags x

How would I feel? Exhausted but grimly satisfied, after putting all his belongings in bin bags and leaving them outside the house. And phoning the divorce lawyer.

He doesn't sound like he loves you OP. No one who loves you discusses having threesomes and tells people his wife is shit in bed. That is not loving behaviour. I wonder if this friend's wife knows her husband seems to be pimping her out. They sound like pond scum.

Tell the other wife. The sex is rubbish because your husband is a selfish wanker. Get out and don't look back, you deserve better, being on your own is not so bad

You need to send this relationship as soon as possible. He does not love you has no respect for you and cannot be trusted. He is obviously planning an affair and could put your health at risk if you stay with him.

I'm so sorry for you but you need to accept that you need to end it.

I'd be packing up his shit then setting it on fire, hun.

Fuck that!!

I’ve been feeling really upset about it but a little voice in my head sometimes tells me I’m over reacting.

Tell that little voice to fuck off and respect your boundaries. I'm sorry you're in such a situation and hope you can get on with your plans very soon. It'll be hard but you will feel so much better once you can be your own person again

100% get him out.

He is vile.

As him for a swap with the other fella and his wife and leave your partner out.

Cheeky bastard