How likely to form an affair during lockdown?

[Peppery123]

Dont want to say too much as I believe that will just skew any serious answers
But..say your dp/dh is working from home since the original lockdown in March 2020. And has only recently gone back to the office for only two days a week but hardly anyone in there because of the pandemic.
How likely is it to form an affair?
Like it would be all down to just texting as the majority of the time he would be at home, no chance of going out to the pub for drinks , socialising somewhere etc.
So could it happen? Would the average woman be satisfied with just tects here and there. Wouldnt that eventually phase out and become boring?

Im in two minds at the moment

I Think if they both want to and arrange to meet up it can happen. I went on an OLD walk at someone’s lunch hour in the city once before the current lockdown. Two days a week is more than enough to do something like a takeaway coffee together or just meet and chat if both people want.

If they want to do it, they will find a way.

Of course. Folk are gagging for it

Where there's a willy there's a way

Is he kind to charismatic and witty over text? A chatty texter? If so I don’t think it’s would necessarily fizzle out

Totally doable

Where there's a willie there's a way...

Ahhh, you beat me to it @wetasstenalady !

The guardian have an article today about the impact of Covid on relationships. Illicit Encounters hook up site has had a massive boost in traffic and people are definitely finding a way.

ANd we wonder why covid is as it is in Britain— just what really helps, hook ups with people you don’t know . Think of their poor partners, in normal times it’s bad enough , at the moment it’s utterly unforgivable .

Not having an affair, nor am I planning one, however I have noticed something personal to my circumstances since March 2020. Been WFH as have all my colleagues. I've always felt as if there was a bit of a connection /spark between me and someone my senior. He's never been particularly into small talk especially in an office environment - and part of that is maybe so people wouldn't gossip....

Since WFH I chat to him pretty frequently over Skype /Teams (before /after work meetings) about personal /non-work things - something that didn't use to happen. I know I'm having more of his attention than my peers. The reason now and not before we were WFH? No one knows! No one can see us. Just something for you to consider....

It sounds as if you're erring on the side of caution, OP. However, there are people who would be very happy to receive attention via text only. If anything, it's more alluring for some because it prolongs the 'foreplay' before ramping up to a physical meet.
What has made you wonder about this?

If people are living alone and working from home it may be easier than it would when people were working in offices all the time.

Think we need more evidence, there must be stuff you've noticed to post this to start with

Not an affair, but I have started a relationship over lockdown and we got to know one another over text. (Now bubbling together.) I think it makes people feel that they really get to know one another on a deeper level without the distraction of sexual attraction. I imagine, too, than it wouldn't feel like a "real" relationship/affair unless it's physical.

Sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.

Thanks everyone. I feel extremely anxious now reading the replies. An affair in lockdown is not something I would even play with. Having high risk relatives and a newborn at home, it isnt worth the risk which is why I was wondering if the average person would just be happy with a non-contact affair" i.e as in text messages and phonecalls.

My dh has been behaving bizarrely now for a few weeks. I dont know if its just boredom but he seems very cagey with his phone. For example since thelockdown weve been basically been tigether 24/7 as both of our jobs consisted ofWFH. He was always very casual with phone and work phone leaving it around when actually before lockdown he was always a bit cautious because we have a teen, a toddler and now a newborn. Toddler has the habit of sometimes grabbing phone & pressing a few buttons so I could understand it.
However, recently hes been grabbing his phone and keeping it with him, also been online on whatsapp more often yet his messages on there dont correlate to the time hes been on so he has to be deleting threads?
I dont want to be paranoid or over exaggerate. tbh, thisblockdown has been tough, with a newborn toddler and teen.
I would hope dh wouldnt be so stupid and selfish to do this esp as we have alot of vulnerable people in our care bubble. I have to add he is alwaus hone though and even when hes been recently been let back into the office he still comes home in the afternoon as he says it can be a really grim atmosphere.
Im just watching this space atm

@OnceIWasAnApe
Can totally understand it if both parties were single! A few of my friends have been single for anwhile but since lockdown have really regretted not making more of anneffort as they realise how lonely it can be living alone, not having the chance to socialise or nab to the gym etc.
Where did you meet him if you dont mind me asking? Is everyone just using OLD platforms?;

@StarFriend

Thanks for your response. I have a feeling myndh may be in that position- having alot more time to talk/connect whereas when he was in the office henwas somtimes being deployed or sat at a particular desk so not had the chance to socialise with other colleagues

Cagey behaviour around his phone is certainly suspicious but it may not be another woman. He might have developed a gambling problem and doesn't want you to know about it. Can you ask him what the big deal is about his phone?

I met my AP during lockdown. When second lockdown came in we moved from hotel rooms to sex in his office when he is there as he is the only one in. We also meet outside once a week - when we are exercising. The married people's dating sites are very active at the moment.

"online on whatsapp more often yet his messages on there dont correlate to the time hes been on so he has to be deleting threads?"

Are you reading his whatsapps?

If Bob sends you a message at 11am but you don't open it till 12 and don't reply, it'll show you as online at 12 but no message.

He could have met someone online and be in a text/FaceTime type situation. If there's promise of "when all this is over", that could keep the stimulation/incentive there! He could be meeting her for walks - shagging in the woods or in the car! If it's someone at work they could be shagging in the office (totally doable; speaking from experience!). If someone wants to cheat they can and will, no matter what, unfortunately. That doesn't mean that he is though.

@singleusename235689

Are you saying hes married?

Anyone can have an affair at any time.

I dont agree with affairs and I'm not having one (or planning to) but I will admit to a weird feeling of it being suddenly attractive because its "forbidden" at the moment. I have no idea where this feeling came from but the idea of having an affair when its strictly FORBIDDEN is making me feel all tingly. It reminds me of films like the english patient where it was all taboo and naughty.

Dont worry- I wont do anything!

Yes.

I think your husband's behaviour is suspicious. But you know that.