Does being called 'sexy' make you cringe!? Also, how excited should I be at this stage?

[TwoAndMe]

It makes me cringe alot. I'm wondering if it makes anyone else feel like that?
Not just that, he has said he can't wait to kiss my sexy lips..
It's via texting. We have been texting back and forth for about 3 weeks. He then started adding 'sexy' into the messages. Morning sexy. Just got a message telling me how his day was and how he has had outdoor lights fitted for our dates at his house. Then again...asked 'how was your day sexy?'. I have ignored it up until now as it has been general chit chat. It's starting to make me feel a bit....I can't think of the word but I don't think about kissing his lips. He has said he can't wait to meet. I don't feel excited because I don't know him. If we had met a few times, I may feel excited.
He has also told me he has a camper van so start thinking about some nice places to visit.
Anyway, if he took out the sexy and wasn't future planning so much, it wouldn't feel so pressured. Am I being mean?

No, don't like the sound of him.

Well, if a camper van doesn't get you excited ...

You've been texting too long without meeting and he's turned you into his fantasy girlfriend.

If he's making you cringe before you met him, it's not a good sign that you even like him. I know you can't really tell until you meet but you should at least feel excited about their messages and the anticipation of meeting, if you don't have that then maybe it's best to start making better connections.

I think this is total cringe. 'I can't wait to kiss your sexy lips' is enough to make my vagina clamp shut to be honest. It sounds like a teenager has written it. I agree that the PP said about you becoming his fantasy girlfriend. He's making it so awkward for when you actually do meet - what if you just don't fancy each other and you both know he's said all that guff via text? It sounds pathetic. He sounds like he's getting way ahead of himself too. Sorry

You’ve got the ick before you’ve even met him.

I’ve got the ick just reading about him.

Throw this one back in.

Oh I'd get excited about a camper van 😂. I think I'd dial back the messaging if you've no plan to meet (social distanced walk bla bla bla). Also, I'd say "it makes me cringe a little when you call me sexy". What have you got to lose. If he gets all defensive, then bye. If not, maybe there's a chance.

Nope, he's definitely set off my 'ick' and eewww.......radar too...blech !!

He sounds like he's got himself convinced that as soon as you two meet, he'll have his hands on your bum within the 1st 10 seconds or so, and on your privates about 20 seconds after that !! Yuk.......

He's the kind of twat that's BIG on online dating as well as online hook up/ sex sites too...................If I was you, I'd be having a little trawl through anything that pops up on a search of his username/s and email etc.

I know what you mean. It’s stupid when you haven’t even met. I would say, how do you know I’m sexy?

Delete and block
Some men will use sexy or babe as not to not call a woman by the wrong name.

@BornIn78

You’ve got the ick before you’ve even met him.

I’ve got the ick just reading about him.

Throw this one back in.

This. 100% this.

I call almost every one babe, Hun & sweetheart. Can't say I use sexy though. It's not because I can't remember their name!

Not appropriate if you haven't even met, fine maybe after a few dates, especially if chemistry is good. I have never replied to a OLD message that says nice pics or sexy pics.

Yuk. I'd be totally okay with someone using the word 'sexy' if we were flirting back and forth, but if it's only been general chit-chat from your side then this would gross me out, also mentioning the outdoor light and the camper van... He doesn't sound like someone I would want to meet.

Thankyou all.
Yes, the camper van does excite me (alone) haha!
I don't reply to a message if I'm called hun or sexy, or any kind of pet name. I just don't feel comfortable with it. However, he didn't start off like that. It's been gradual. He asks me what I'm watching and last night he said he would love to be cuddling up next to me. It's become more uncomfortable.
I just don't know what to say. I was thinking about telling him, it makes me feel uncomfortable him calling me sexy. I was worried he would take offence. I think I will just say it though.

I wouldn’t have liked it when dating and don’t think I would have met up with him. It’s too much from somebody you’ve never met and puts the focus on the physical side of things rather than just meeting and establishing a connection. It sounds like he would want to rush into things.

It’s been gradual

It’s been 3 bloomin’ weeks! He sounds like a horny teenager! I agree with pp saying it sounds like he thinks your going to melt into his arms when you meet. He sounds a bit deluded tbh. I would also be wary of him potentially sounding out lots of different women in the hope at least one will have sex with him (in his camper van).

Some people don't like pet names, especially with people they don't know. If he takes offence, before you've even met, then I think that's a sign in itself. I do think I'd be weirded out by the kissing and cuddling but these are strange times. I don't think it means that he's necessarily a creep and by the sounds of it you've both been messaging a lot. I think it's perfectly reasonable to say you're not a fan of pet names and the future talk makes you uncomfortable. I met my DP online (thankfully before Covid) but due to child care it was a few weeks before we could meet. He said a few "future" things and I said "let's wait until we meet before you scare me off" (a bit blunt but he laughed about it - I think haha).

You've never met this guy and he's already talking like this - he's straight up telling you he's only interested in sex. I'm online dating atm and I would have stopped replying/unmatched at the first instance of mentioning sex. I've been on three dates with guys I got on fine with by messaging and didn't fancy one of them in real life. All this planning the future etc is pure nonsense and a waste of time.

I ‘cutie’ and even that makes me cringe 😅

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Yep I'd have the ick too. He'd have got 'Awesome but I think we should probably actually you know, have a date first before talk of day trips away'.

That's a big fat no from me.

Tbf I have replied to guys partly because they have camper vans in their profile pics. Guys are obviously clicking on to the fact that a camper is date bait 🤣
The babe and sexy thing puts me right off tho if we haven't actually got any kind of sexual relationship.
I met a guy once and we shagged on date 2. I was already working out what to say tto get rid when he sent me a message calling me his 'sexy girlfriend'.

Pre-meeting "sexy" means he only wants sex.
He's trying like hell to get to sexting with you ASAP, so if there is a first date, it's a sex date.

Have you done OLD for very long? Don't ever worry about offending men. Period.

“Sexy” and “cuddling” = big fat fucking ❌
Bin him off.
(Or if you haven’t gone right off him at least tell him to cool it until you’ve met)