Partner is getting on my nerves at the moment

[TTlover]

We have lived together for 2 years. No children.

We just have very different opinions on things around the home. I feel like he constantly is so particular about things yet he doesn’t do much around the house. I cook, clean, wash clothes, walk the dog. He doesn’t do anything around the house.

Yet, he moans about the way I load the dishwasher, tells me I’m using the wrong chopping board as it blunts the knives, tells me that my cooking skills are strange and he doesn’t know where on earth I got them from. I just feel be littled when I do so much to keep everything ticking over.

I told him to F off this evening, which I feel bad enough, but I’ve honestly had enough of the constant picking!!! It’s almost like he wants a reaction.

He will never say that I cooked a nice dinner, but will always critique when I haven’t done something right.

I’m sorry - I just needed somewhere to rant. 🙁

I would go on strike - tell him since he is so much better at all these jobs, he can do them himself

I’d leave
Life’s too short for that

DH of 34 years told me in our year one that I was "cutting the tomato wrong". I said, do it yourself then and didn't cook a meal for about 27 years afterwards.

You don’t have children op, this is no way to live. Walk away while you have ties to this man

When I started reading this I thought ‘that’s me!’ - partner who doesn’t do anything BUT, to not do it - but then criticise how YOU are doing it. Not cool, and well done for telling him to F off x

He doesn’t do anything around the house

Why the fuck not?! Why fo you accept this? Why have you not said ‘this isn't working for me.’ And left ir told him to leave.

I fail to understand why you're living like this. You don't have kids, so get the fuck out of there. You're wasting your life with a useless tyrant.

I have things I’m very particular about so I do them, my partner has things he is very particular about so he does them. I don’t expect him to do things my way and he doesn’t expect me to do things his way.

If he isn’t keen on your cooking thats fine, but he should solve it by cooking himself. If he wants the dishwasher loaded a certain way again fine, he can load it himself. What he shouldn’t do is police how someone else loads a dishwasher etc.

Just cook for yourself as 'you don't like my strange way of cooking'.

Really obviously, you stop being a slave to an ungrateful master, why do you carry on like this? Tell him you’re no longer doing anything for him, cooking, washing etc. The definition of madness is to keep on doing the same thing whilst expecting a different outcome.

I'd probably get out now. I couldn't live with someone who not only didn't pull their weight but was then critical.

What's he bringing to the relationship?

Nothing worse than people in your ear telling you how to do things yet they won’t step in and do it themselves. Go on strike for a while and see if he pulls his weight. If he does, criticise everything he does and when he gets pissed off tell him that’s how you feel every time he’s in your ear moaning.

Why don’t you Share the jobs 50/50