How many women do this?

[Twinkles23]

How often do you prepare meals a day for your partner?
I’ve been told tonight that some women prepare meals 4 times a day for their partner. We’ve had a huge argument over it. Surely this isn’t correct? I’ve told him this isn’t the 1950s anymore. I make him lunch and sometimes dinner if he wants it. He usually doesn’t. But now apparently I should be.

Tell him to fuck off :)

I make dinner for us all, but so does he!
I'm a SAHM to two toddlers.

What's your home situation like? I still think he will be wrong....

You mean he suggested you should be doing this?

What a cheek. Is he generally a misogynistic prick?

Err I would only cook a meal if it was for the both of us.
Why would you cook a meal for someone else when you aren’t eating it?

I do most of the cooking because I like it. Dh does the washing and clearing up after.

I’m guessing these are people both working from home. We have separate breakfast. Dh makes his packed lunch. What’s the fourth meal?

Four meals a day? Is he a Hobbit? Ask him for the contact details of these women. Preferably where you don't need to hold a seance to get through to them.

we make the same. one day he might do breakfast and I'll do the lunch..

Four meals a day?

I do dinner because I'm better at it and I prefer my cooking. Breakfast and lunch everyone fends for themselves unless.

No doubt "some women" do prepare four meals a day for their dh. But...some women are supermodels, some women have smelly feet, some women have three children, some women snore like trains, some women pack the dishwasher in a particular way.....etc. The point is, how on earth is that relevant to you? I suspect it is wholly irrelevant to you and your dp needs to realise that.
In case it helps this "some woman" insists that her dh cooks dinner every other night for the family (everyone sorts out their own lunch and breakfast).

We rarely eat breakfast or lunch together and make our own. DH makes the evening dinner every day.

DH does all the cooking in our house. I get a hot meal made for me every night

How many times a day does he prepare meals for you? Match that.

Some women probably do. (Although who eats 4 meals a day?!)

Question is, why those women might do it and do those reasons apply to you? I would hope that one of the reasons is because they want to.

But it being 2021, there's no fucking reason a woman should be serving her partner every meal like he's Lord Muck and as someone who calls himself your partner, he might want to think about the definition of that word.

Does he also have views like, housework is women's work?

"And some men shower their partners with attention and love, but we don't all get what we want."?

DP makes most of the breakfasts, I make most of the dinners. Lunches we usually do our own thing but if we're together I tend to make something.

I make us dinner approx every other day, and maybe a weekend brunch. He makes us dinner on the other days.

We do our own breakfast, if we’re home together for lunch we’ll eat together but probably sort our own lunches.

When I went to the office he used to make me a packed lunch sometimes.

We both work. He works full time and I work part time for a few hours in the evening. I do the kids breakfast lunch and dinner. He said he doesn’t want breakfast, I do him a good full lunch, sometimes he wants dinner if he does I will do it. I also homeschool the kids all day while he is working. He is in constant competition with me who does what, where as I don’t care who does what as long as it gets done.

None guaranteed. Let him build a time machine.

Isn’t dinner a family meal?

When you say you make his lunch, is that different from what everyone else is eating?

He's being a complete and utter twat and needs to have a look at himself, Mr Mighty Shitey Pants.

Did he mean four times a week? That might be more like it?

If it is four times a day then I need help figuring out way these meals are. Is it:
Breakfast
Lunch*
Supper*
Tea*

*can be substituted with "dinner".

He sounds exhausting quite frankly. Do you not think it would be less work without him? Does he never cook for you?

What?!?! DH and I share it fairly evenly (no kids) - I'd say I maybe do dinner 2-3 days a week, he does 2 days and we do it together the other days. We do our own lunch and breakfast unless there are leftovers.

The only justification for expecting you to do most of his meals IMO is if you are a SAHM and cooking for the kids anyway, in which case making extra isn't too much effort. Not otherwise. And only in that case if he pulls his weight in other areas e.g. childcare when he is at home, cleaning, gardening, cooking on weekends...

I sometimes cook one meal a day. Sometimes he does it. He doesn't eat breakfast. If he wants lunch while at work he buys it. Otherwise he goes hungry. I wouldn't be doing it every day never mind 4 times a day. Fuck that. He works FT, I work PT and do 95% of household chores, 100% of school runs (when school is open) and now 100% of the home schooling.

Four! Tell him to sod off. I assume he is able bodied. Perfectly able to make his own tea and toast? Equally able to make his own sandwich and open a bag of crisps?

Cooking one meal a day is fine IF he is willing to do all the clearing up afterwards, including emptying the dishwasher. Or alternating evenings so he cooks his fair share.

Or does he still need his mum

At the weekend DP made a fry up, I made a light lunch and my DC made a roast. This is pretty much normal here.