How many women do this?

[Twinkles23]

How often do you prepare meals a day for your partner?
I’ve been told tonight that some women prepare meals 4 times a day for their partner. We’ve had a huge argument over it. Surely this isn’t correct? I’ve told him this isn’t the 1950s anymore. I make him lunch and sometimes dinner if he wants it. He usually doesn’t. But now apparently I should be.

@Twinkles23 the question is do you want to?...

I didn't do that, we both took it in turns, sometimes one did it more than the other but then other things like his washing I did more.

Let me tell you he didn't cheat on me or lie to me because I didn't make lunch 😂

Your relationship is about both of you.

@PurpleDaisies

I do most of the cooking because I like it. Dh does the washing and clearing up after.

I’m guessing these are people both working from home. We have separate breakfast. Dh makes his packed lunch. What’s the fourth meal?

I'm the same. He can cook but I enjoy cooking and would rather do that than wash up, which he does. We divide household things such that we're both happy.

I also like cooking because I often make one large dinner and then put leftovers in the fridge or the freezer. So on leftover nights I get to simply plate up and he gets fewer dishes to wash.

And then sometimes we'll just do something for the other person that is normally "their" job without asking, if they've had a busy day or are tired or unwell.

FOUR meals a day? Is he Jabba the Hutt?

I do 1 meal a day, dinner for both of us, maybe 3-4 days a week. DH does the other days because he's not a disgusting chauvinist.

Where do you live? I'm in Cambridgeshire if you're local and would like me to come kick your DH a good testicle punch.

I sometimes do 4 meals a day for DH (breakfast, lunch, tea and dinner). I always do lunch and dinner and he gets the other 2 if I do something for myself that he can take to work with him the next day. So I won't do him toast but if I'm having porridge I'll do him some and he'll heat it up at work.

That said, he works incredibly long hours and I don't work and he expects nothing from me. I've been so ill over the years that he thinks he's won the lottery if he gets home and there's a meal ready for him.

I never cook for dh, he makes his dinner and I make mine. We share making the kids dinner.
I don't do dh washing/ironing
I do nothing for him and vice versa

Four meals a day? Is he a Hobbit?

I really laughed at this. Nice work!

I prepare my DH a meal less than once a month. I'm not joking.

I do most of the cooking and meal prep things for DH to take to work.

But I love cooking and I don't mind doing it. He does his fair share but my food is nicer.

Plus I'm a feeder deep down.

I used to cook the evening meal but that task is now our elder son's (just finished some gorgeous minted lamb). Breakfast and lunch we all just make our own

🤣 4 meals a day? Isn't it normal to have 3?
I mean I usually do dinner but dp has been doing it every night because he's home and I'm really ill.
Tell him to get to fuck.

When you cook dinner for the kids do you not make enough for him too?

There's 6.

Breakfast, brunch, lunch, linner, dinner, supper. 😁

DH does all the cooking. I'm barely allowed near the cooker.
He might let me heat up some beans as part of his lunch.

I'm a sahm and I include him a portion if he is eating with us. He gets his own breakfast and lunch. I occasionally offer to make his lunch if he is fully booked on conference calls all day but I also tell him to block off his lunchtime to take time for himself. He will make a meal for the kids at weekends and holidays.
Pre kids when we both worked full time. We would take it in turns to cook. The other washed up after.

@Twinkles23 LOL, why do people always say 'it isn't the 1950s!'

Women were treated like domestic slaves for a LONG time before that (and for some time after!) Some still are.

I do NOT cook 4 times a day for my DH. That's just ridiculous. And we share the cooking/meal prep etc.

@MaraThorn

FOUR meals a day? Is he Jabba the Hutt?

I do 1 meal a day, dinner for both of us, maybe 3-4 days a week. DH does the other days because he's not a disgusting chauvinist.

Where do you live? I'm in Cambridgeshire if you're local and would like me to come kick your DH a good testicle punch.

Jabba the hut!

Deborah Meaden is a pain in the arse but I am impressed by her oft-repeated bold statement that she hasn’t prepared a meal in 20 years!

I cook dinners for us both, as does he.
Since we’re both wfh, if I know he’s busy I might make his lunch when I’m making mine. But again, he does the same if I’m busy.
I’d only make him breakfast if he was ill.

Never. He prepares meals for me.

Crazy!! Haha! Why do you do all of it on your own? Do you do anything for yourself?

No, never. No.

Generally we make our own breakfasts and lunches but dinner time we cook for each other. It’s split fairly evenly depending on what shifts we’re on.

My partner makes me lunch and dinner but we have discussed it and he's ok with that because I do the cleaning and house admin. We both feel like we aren't doing enough but reassure eachother that we are. We both come from a place of generosity. If one party wants to keep score or take take take then it must be exhausting.

This isn’t an isolated incident.

How much more of this sort of thing are you going to put up with before you leave him?

@iklboo

Four meals a day? Is he a Hobbit? Ask him for the contact details of these women. Preferably where you don't need to hold a seance to get through to them.

hilarious! One meal a day is suffice and he may take turns in producing it!