Bf moving in during for lockdown only, should he pay bills?!

[katiie3]

Hi everyone

My bf and I are both single households ( no children) and live on our own.

He asked me during this third lockdown, if he could move into mine (my house is more accessible and there are more rooms to work from home for both of us)

So he is moving in until April/may until lockdown is reviewed again.

We haven’t discussed bills. I think he should contribute towards the utility bills as he will be working from home too etc

How do I approach this?

@katiie3

His house is paid off because he bought it when he was 20 and has managed to pay it off a few years ago.

I will see if and how my utilities bills are affected when I receive my next bill. Then I could bring it up.

I agree with food, he is a big eater and enjoys his food so I do expect him to get some groceries and meals. At least for himself etc.

Don't forget your single person council tax discount - are you likely to lose that if he moves on? 🌹

One thing you could do is ask him what does he think is fair financially with regard to him moving in

I'd ask what he thought you should do - that will tell you a lot. A decent man would pay half of your electricity, gas and water bills, and given that he eats a lot, he'd pay for all of the food in lieu of rent.

I'm just amazed you want him to be living with you - he sounds like an overgrown teenager.

I feel like I live in a different universe. The basic assumption is that he has some type of ulterior motives. He might, but why is that the default? Maybe he asked to move at hers cause he cares about her and with the pandemic and the lockdown (which will continue for a while) he would like to spend the time with her instead of home alone and occationally visiting. There might not be a bigger master plan behind it. He hasn't declined from conributing. It hasn't come up yet.

Why does he have to move in?
Propably doesn't have to. He mih just think it would be nice to stay together .

Don't forget your single person council tax discount - are you likely to lose that if he moves on?
I'd assume that this is all off the books. Just staying over for 3ish months.

A decent man would pay half of your electricity, gas and water bills, and given that he eats a lot, he'd pay for all of the food in lieu of rent.
Really? I might be a golddiger but with an offer like this I'd assume that my partner really didn't want me there and I'd rather stay at home. It's one thing to contribute fair share but this seems a bit over the top.

I'm just amazed you want him to be living with you - he sounds like an overgrown teenager.
Based on the fact that he watches TV and plays Xbox? He sometimes plays late at night. I sometimes watch films or read till 4am. I guess I am a teenager as well. Also, just because someone has certain habbit on their own at their own house does not mean that they do it when sharing a space. At least, I have very different routines alone and when living with bf.

@katiie3

His house is paid off (no mortgage) he pays utilities bills at his house.

I have a mortgage, utilities bills etc

I don’t really watch much tv. I use my laptop for work etc but my bf watches tv more or less all day and he also plays Xbox a lot. Sometimes late night until 2/3am.

My water is on a meter so I’m charged for each use etc.

I feel like if he contributes towards the bills then it’s fair.

Let me guess, this will evolve into him living at yours bill free, renting out his place to make a profit, you doing all the cooking, cleaning and housework and him doing sweet f.a.

How do you plan to work from home if he is watching telly all day and gaming at night? Do you not need a quiet spot for work?

Hes getting a very hard time here! I'd expect him to pay half the grocery bill and a contribution towards utilities - maybe £25 a month.

I think he probably wants to stay so you both have company, you may both enjoy it so much it becomes a permanent arrangement