Bf moving in during for lockdown only, should he pay bills?!

[katiie3]

Hi everyone

My bf and I are both single households ( no children) and live on our own.

He asked me during this third lockdown, if he could move into mine (my house is more accessible and there are more rooms to work from home for both of us)

So he is moving in until April/may until lockdown is reviewed again.

We haven’t discussed bills. I think he should contribute towards the utility bills as he will be working from home too etc

How do I approach this?

gotta be a back story?! Is he mean or generous or oblivious?

@SimonJT

We did this and then it became permanent, until he moved in permanently and was put on the council tax my bills only went up by about 1/5 each month.

He paid a third of food and utilities, so to be honest I ended up making a profit. He was then made redundant so I decided not to take any money from him until he found another job.

Do you have a lot of kids, or do you eat a lot more than him or something?

Speak to him about finances before he moves in? If you can’t speak to him then I don’t see it working

Split utilities and food 50/50

Bill contribution is the way to go - nothing towards the mortgage and for food etc don’t forget your council tax changes as well

@Bluntness100 Food was the only bill that really increased, charging one extra phone and laptop makes very little difference to the electricity bill.

I wouldn’t charge for utilities but you should go halves on food

Mine has done this (tho he is not there all the time due to travelling for his work which includes a lot of over-nights). I earn a lot more than him so I haven’t asked him to pay towards bills, tho he does buy most of the food when he is with me. He also does more than his fair share of cooking and cleaning when there, and is handy around the house, does errands to help me out etc, so my life is made easier by the arrangement in practical ways (as well as feeling less lonely obviously).

Er... if you moved in with somebody, would you wait until they asked you about the financial implications, or expect them to raise it with you?

Both my options were the same option

Would you wait until they asked you, or would you raise it yourself?

You approach it straightforwardly - "hey [fella], we should sort out about how we're paying for stuff while you're staying - how do you want to do this?"

If he looks all aghast at the prospect of paying his way, you have learnt an important things about him.

I charge mine £25 a night when he’s here, plus he has to get my tea in the morning and cook my supper. Got that organised right at the start - he brought it up before i could, because he’s a very decent man.

Urgh when was lockdown announced it would be until then

@ThisTooShallBe

I charge mine £25 a night when he’s here, plus he has to get my tea in the morning and cook my supper. Got that organised right at the start - he brought it up before i could, because he’s a very decent man.

Wow. What does he get for £25 a day? That's £700 a month!!! Just for staying over? Or is that a permanent move ?

When you talk about the bills, make sure you also discuss how you're going to share out any domestic work - cleaning, cooking, laundry, washing-up etc.

Four nights a week @cosmicbabe, not during lockdown though as I don’t want him here 24/7, I need my space! It covers food and bills. Also it’s just on principle really, I’m very wary of a man taking my home for granted.

He will still have to pay a certain amount for his own household bills, council tax etc. But he should certainly cover half the food costs....no such thing as a free lunch! And a little extra for the water and extra energy used.

Sounds like you got yourself a slave......or a mouse.

Do you really want him there 247?

Is he going to make a lot of extra work for you?

1/2 the utilities plus him doing and paying for the food shopping would be fair.

He does his own cooking, laundry, cleaning.

As others have said he will need to cover half the supermarket bill, some of the utilities and the increase in council tax as you won’t get the 25% single person discount anymore. Sort that out before he moves his stuff in,

Oh gosh yes, he does half the cooking and his own laundry and cleaning eg bathrooms. You’re not a slave.

I wouldn't let anyone move in ... but I enjoy my space 🥰

His house is paid off (no mortgage) he pays utilities bills at his house.

I have a mortgage, utilities bills etc

I don’t really watch much tv. I use my laptop for work etc but my bf watches tv more or less all day and he also plays Xbox a lot. Sometimes late night until 2/3am.

My water is on a meter so I’m charged for each use etc.

I feel like if he contributes towards the bills then it’s fair.

Having lived as a single person and then as a couple there really is very little difference in utility bills . However he should pay half of all the food , takeaway bills etc you have .

I think it’s fair if he pays half the bills and half the food, depending on how much you both eat/drink

Half the bills becayse he’s not paying his when he’s there, you will be heating the house

It doesn’t actually matter why, he should be offering this up.