Deal breaker??

[2021vibes]

Seeing a guy for a few months now and i had a look through who he follows on instagram (cant be the only one whose done this !!)
He follows alot of bikini models, but the more soft porn ones in sex positions etc and also 2 porn accounts .
Im majorly turned off by this- overreacting ?
Its one thing having a wank and sticking on a bit of porn, but to openly have it on your instagram? Im just imagining he's scrolling through porn images every time he goes on instagram and God knows what he does on snapchat !! I thought this was a teenagers app, hes 39. Im imagining more of the same sleazy shit.
Is this a deal breaker or is this the way of nowadays? Im out of the dating world by 15 years!!

Well it's a deal breaker for you and that's all that matters.

It would be for me. Gross.

But if this is men nowadays I might just have to deal with it?

I don’t see it as an issue tbh as long as he’s not commenting publicly on the models.

A lot of influencers do “only fans” and have pictures taken wearing next to nothing. I think it’s a generation thing.

No, no, no, no OP. Do not lower your standards and accept something you’re not happy with - unhappiness lies that way. What else will you accept because “all men do it”?.

Set your boundaries and stick to them. If it’s a deal breaker, it’s a deal breaker.

The older I get the more disgusted I am by porn. I am less tolerant these days and it would be a deal breaker for me if it was on social media sites on his phone.

I'll need to admit to snooping tho!!

Who do you think sets the rules about when your boundaries are pushed or broken, OP?

I'd doubt he would comment on any, he's the silent social media type, doesn't seem to like or comment on anything but always watching!!

It's not "men nowadays". They're not a homogenous group, and a lot have more bloody sense, apart from anything else.

I think a man who publicly follows pornstars on his insta is an idiot and it would be a dealbreaker on that score, as well as being grim.

It's not "snooping". It's all out in the open. If you don't want to be judged by your online activity you act smarter.

I agree it's got the saddo/teenager vibe and that ain't sexy!!

🤢 I can't stand men like this . I'd have to tell him you ain't happy with it . What a slime ball so disrespectful

I'd be the same as you OP. I would class myself as fairly young minded and knowledgable about social media and online stuff so I wouldn't say that it's a "thing" that all men do. I would say it's a thing that creepy, Pervy saddos do.

You've got to wonder about his common-sense, attitude to women and how far this goes, when he thinks it's acceptable to show potential employers, potential partners, colleagues, family and friends his taste in wank material.

I'm ending it, this has had my stomach churning for days, life's too short for this shit

It would put me off that he was doing this and with a public profile - as PP say it shows poor judgement.

It's embarrassing for me too if anyone knew we were seeing each other. I'd be mortified if one of my friends or family saw this!!

Good for you. Totally agree with your POV.

Will you tell him this is why you're ending it?

I'm just going to say one of the sites came up as a suggestion for me to follow

@2021vibes

I'm ending it, this has had my stomach churning for days, life's too short for this shit

Rock solid. Well done.