I moved in with dp at the start of June.
Obviously because of lockdown we have been walking a lot. I usually take dps hand on walks before living together and he’s never raised any issue but he started to tell me soon after living together that he hates holding my hand. Okay, it’s maybe not his thing I thought so I had stopped doing it altogether. No major issue.
We did however go for a walk today and he started to complain about how slowly I was walking. We had only just left the house. I thought this was a silly thing to complain about and a couple of minutes in when he was still grumpy and complaining about it I told him if it bothered him that much and he wanted me to keep up with him then he could just take my hand. He reacted by swiftly grabbing my arm with one hand then jerked my hand out of my coat pocket. It was very clearly done with annoyance on his part. I was shocked at his reaction and the jerking motion he used. He momentarily hurt my arm as he gripped it tightly to remove my hand from my coat.
This was done as we were approaching a traffic light where cars were stopped and i felt a rush of heat to my face from embarrassment. I’ve never felt like that before around him and was just a bit surprised really at his behaviour.
I made it clear when he did that that I was embarrassed in front of cars of people and he momentarily hurt my arm. He told me there was no way he could have hurt me and I was making a drama out of it. Queue an argument as we walked which led to him storming off home and leaving me on the walk on my own.
He has refused to admit he’s done anything wrong. I don’t know whether I’m just blowing this out of proportion as he has never been violent or abuse before.
Is he right, am I just being a drama queen? If I need to wind my neck in feel free to tell me to wise up.