Help for tonight please

[Erin36]

My partner and I have separated, a main issue being that I spent my own savings largely on an embarrassing health problem that I didn’t want to discuss. I told my partner about this on New Year’s Eve after we were chatting about other issues in our relationship.

My partner is coming up for a chat tonight. My partner is the love of my life abs also pregnant (same sex relationship). How can I get her to stay with me?

Why do you type and as abs

@Perfect28

Why do you type and as abs

It's a glitch ok the iPhone mine keeps doing it too

@herechickchickchickchick and as abs and also ok and I’m always does it on my phone too 🙄

Oh no that must be so annoying!

[quote Catty1720]@herechickchickchickchick and as abs and also ok and I’m always does it on my phone too 🙄[/quote]
Mine three

“Nobody is pure good or pure bad. She is, on balance, not good for you (clearly, because you're acting irrationally) and not good for your daughter because she's using up time, resources and energy you could be spending on your daughter while also helping you show her unhealthy relationship modelling in the process.

Sorry OP it sounds harsh but grow up, you two really aren't as special a couple as you think at the moment. You'll see that in time.”

This.

Read up about co-dependency.

There are significant issues, lack of trust, lack of honesty, your ex wanting control over things.

It's a car crash.

You say your relationship is like something from a film as if that sounds like a positive.

To a well adjusted adult that doesn't make the relationship sound viable and healthy, it just says a lot about your maturity and attitude to relationships.

It makes it clear you don't understand that films are fictional and not real life. That you think life can be Disney and rom coms. They aren't real life.

Love in real life can and should be calm, kind, mutual, equal, respectful, healthy, fun and not require endless attempts to fix, change or correct each other.

And bloody hell... actual, healthy love isn't this fucking dramatic, intense or hard work.

@Perfect28

Oh no that must be so annoying!

It really it, as much as I want abs in real life, always changing and to abs is just teasing lol

@Perfect28

Oh no that must be so annoying!

It's really fucking annoying to read over and over again, I can tell you that much!

I cannot get over how your partner feels she has a right to dictate a routine for your daughter when it goes against the wishes of her actual parents.

This for me would be such a deal breaker. it is beyond selfish putting her wants and needs before a child’s and her fathers.

If it was a suggestion to maybe change the day it was then fair enough, but she wants your child to see her own parent 4 days a month less?! Beyond words..

@Erin36

It is legally my child she is pregnant with too. We went through the process together. Been together 3.5 years and engaged.

My daughter adores her and they have such a lovely relationship.

She is currently staying with her mother and myself and my daughter are still living on the family home (which we rent off her parents). Ultimately, we will need to move out and my partner will move back in here.

It is legally my child she is pregnant with too No, it really isn't, not unless it's your sperm

@Erin36 did she come round and did you talk things through??