Love & hurt & me being foolish

[22xo]

This is going to be long guys, please advice me on what to do..

I’ve been dating this guy for a month now, we’re both 22. He came out of prison last year feb (let’s call him s) & there’s his ex who is a psycho and won’t leave him alone... some fake account started sending me abuse which we later found out wasn’t her and this prompted her to snitch on S and he was arrested for 24hrs 3 days ago.

Abit of background, he used to live in London & was in prison in London. And he moved to notts. So after his ex snitched the police were looking for him so he went back to London and is now out on bail and has to stay in London until his court date with 4 charges against him. In the time he was outside of prison he managed to start his own barber shop.

Moving on the day after he was arrested and out he goes to see his ex for reasons I don’t know, and now he’s telling me she looks pregnant so they’re going to do a pregnancy test. They were together whilst he was in prison and a few months after. So 6-8 months he has been single before meeting me.

S is now telling me she is pregnant and it’s his but his ex has also just found out about me & him and if she was pregnant she had months to get in contact with him but all of a sudden she is now.

Sorry I feel really stupid and after a bad heart break I decided to give things another go and I genuinely thought he was the one, he treated me so good..

Do I just forget about him and move on??

At the moment I’m just overthinking everything and I feel like I’ve been played and strung along in yet another relationship

For a month, his messy background isn't even worth contemplating. Move on

He has also lied to me about his real name and told me a whole fake one which I later found out when he was on the phone to 101

He's playing you both that's why she's still on the scene, why would he just go round to see her
You're young, you have your pick of other more suitable men so I would say move on.

Yes you just forget about him and move on.

@Opaljewel I just genuinely thought I’d be happy again as he truly made me happy the last month on being with him then everything just came crashing down in a matter of a few days

A fuck load of hassle that you're getting nothing good out of. Move on.

You don't even know him after a month! Ridiculous. What was he in prison for?

Yes. This is way too messy. Lying about his name is a huge red flag, as are so many other parts of this.

He was in prison for class A drugs and imitation of a fire arm.

Why would you pick a bloke like him?

I thought I knew him. His fake name so to speak is what he uses on all his social media and is the name on top of his barber shop but I think he uses his fake name so no one can chase his real name and his convictions back to him

What are the four crimes he is charged with now?

@Nomoresleeps I looked passed the prison part as with me he was kind, gentle and caring..

Yes but you knew he'd been in prison and yet you still chose to start something with him, and don't get me started on the crazy ex part.

You have a lot of growing up to do OP if you think this guy was a winner, seriously.

@Nomoresleeps he won’t tell me the 4 charges for some reason.

[quote 22xo]@Nomoresleeps he won’t tell me the 4 charges for some reason.[/quote]
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Run for the hills and don't look back. Please raise your bar - a lot

@shitinmyhandsandclap his ex is apparently a 27yr old woman who stalks and harasses him and he said there’s reports on her for doing so

Not only do you need to ditch this person but you need to do the Freedom Programme course before you date again.

It's not good decision-making.

Guys I have such bad taste in men. Every relationship I’ve been in crumbles right before me. I just thought this would be different as I did try to end it with him due to some fake accounts hurling abuse at me telling me to leave him along then he was non stop calling me off his phone and his friends till I would answer

@Lemonpiano I will look into it, thank you

[quote 22xo]@shitinmyhandsandclap his ex is apparently a 27yr old woman who stalks and harasses him and he said there’s reports on her for doing so[/quote]
I despair

Please move on. Feelings can be so intense in the first month of a new relationship, but you don't yet know that person, however wonderful they seem at the start.

@HawthornLantern last night I did tell him I couldn’t be with him due to his now apparently being pregnant but then this morning we spoke on the phone again and before u know it I was sendin him paragraphs on how I felt lied too about everything & he hasn’t even responded

It's the right decision - though it doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. Lots of great advice on this thread on decision making in future relationships. Wishing you all the best.