If you argue with DP do you stay somewhere else overnight?

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If you have dc together? This is a couple in their mid 30s with 7 dc between them most of them under 10. Arguments sometimes end with one parent walking out and staying overnight at their mum and dad's. I don't want to say too much here as I'm paranoid about being outed but I'd like to know if this is normal behaviour in a relationship when you have dc? I have no point of reference regarding normal and this board is often a great place for info on normal v not normal.

No it isn't.

Sorry to clarify. It isn't normal

No we have never done that.

So they are leaving the other person to take care of their children? That's outrageous. And very, very childish.

That doesn’t sound normal to me

Pathetic behaviour

We don’t have children but no never. We don’t even sleep in different rooms if we have an argument. Although I don’t think we’ve ever had an argument bad enough for one of us to storm out. It would only ever be a bit of bickering because one of us was over tired

Nope and if I went running to my parents they would not let me in and would tell me to grow up!!

No, but neither DP or I can bear going to bed on an arguement.

I think that sounds like quite a volatile environment for children.

No not normal!

Absolutely not. It's not a good way to deal with your differences, and it's upsetting for the children to have one of your parents walking out - young children won't have the knowledge to know you're definitely coming back.

It's all very well going to a different room to get some space, but then you have to make up and sort your problems out. If you can't do that, you shouldn't be with that person I'm afraid.

No it's not normal.

Me and dh don't argue anyway but if did this would not be acceptable.

How bad are these arguments that one person storms out? Hopefully not in front of the dc too. Sounds like a toxic environment for them.

It's a doomed relationship. No one this immature can be trusted in a long term relationship.

We have never once done this ever.

We’re too far away to do this but even if we weren’t, we’d never do this.

Not normal at all.

Never done this. That’s weird and childish.

No because we are grown ups.

Not normal and very childish, and indicates that a couple can't sort their differences out at all. But I guess that some hot headed and ultra angry people do this, or those who may be in a drunken state of mind etc.

Well we normally sleep separately at the moment as I cosleep. But now never have either have us done this. I once stormed out went for a drive when I was irrational hormonal leaving DH with one child to look after.

I couldn’t imagine having 7 children btw!

My parents used to do it. After a big one, my dad would stay at his dads for a few days. It was a doomed relationship.

DP and I argue. No one has ever left as it always gets resolved.

One time when we were really young, he stormed out to clear his head but i think he either stood outside or came back really quickly. We were different people then.

No.

Nope. Can't be nice for the kids either. They need to face up to their problems like adults.

No and I rarely argue with DH either. If we do argue it's something trivial and resolved pretty much instantly. If you argue and leave there's something wrong, and the relationship is doomed.

I don't have children and have never done this.