If you argue with DP do you stay somewhere else overnight?

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If you have dc together? This is a couple in their mid 30s with 7 dc between them most of them under 10. Arguments sometimes end with one parent walking out and staying overnight at their mum and dad's. I don't want to say too much here as I'm paranoid about being outed but I'd like to know if this is normal behaviour in a relationship when you have dc? I have no point of reference regarding normal and this board is often a great place for info on normal v not normal.

Not normal.

Sounds like the actions of a selfish person, using it as an excuse to have a break from the family.

No, that's weird.

As a police officer yes this is normal and is indeed policy even after a verbal domestic, we have to split the two parties up for the night even if it means giving one a lift to somewhere to stay.

Sometimes we end up at domestics even if there has been no violence involved as a third party has called it in.

But @Stationfork - DV situations aren't the kind of normal arguments that occur in healthy relationships. In healthy relationships people argue and can stay under the same roof.

No, Grimsknee, but OP didn't ask only for replies from 'healthy relationships', she asked if this was a thing that happens.

Yes, it does, and is encouraged for good reasons as a couple of us have pointed out.

Been with DH 10 years and we've never slept in separate beds if we're together even after an argument

DV situations are not what I'm talking about here though, just run of the mill arguments over a messy bathroom, kitchen or whatever in general. Nothing that the neighbours would hear and report. This happens without either parent telling the kids they are going either so they are leaving their kids in the care of their partner and the kids find out when they ask where their dad or mum has gone. Two of the kids are from this relationship, two from her previous relationship, and three from his marriage.
Horrible atmosphere, I agree.

There’s been 2 or 3 times my DP and I have had a horrific fall out and one of us has gone to stay at our parents so the situation has calmed down. Always back before DD wakes up though!

If you are not one of the couple then how do you have so much detail?

Who are you in the situation OP and why so involved?