Ok, so I'm after opinions on if this is pretty normal or if this is a massive red flag. I just can't decide and although I have told friends, their opinions are mixed.
Met a guy on Tinder in August. Both of us separated from long relationships since this time last year. Got on great. Sex is fantastic, he's very considerate and makes me laugh a lot.
Spent a lot of time together pretty much since September whenever my children were at ex-DH's (50/50) as we made a support bubble together and he was furloughed. He was the one who said we should be exclusive (I was "seeing" a couple of other men until we got together) Asked me to be his girlfriend and told me he loved me in October. No children but was with his ex-wife for 20+ years and they still live in the same village and a lot of her belongings are in his house so I've never been there- he always comes here.
Problem is, he hasn't told any of his family that he's even dating, never mind that he has a girlfriend. He says this is because his ex-wife is like family to his sister and sister in law and they are holding out hope they will get back together one day.
He was here Christmas Eve and now I won't see him until possibly the New Year as he's with his brother/sister and families for Christmas. He also told me his ex-wife is likely to be there on Boxing Day as she's best friends with his sister. This is obviously likely to now not go ahead due to the new restrictions, but I'm not sure how strict they are with adhering to them. He hasn't mentioned if he will/won't be seeing her and I don't want to ask!
There was no big bust up in their marriage, just that they fell out of love and it became more of a brother/sister thing rather than husband/wife.
Am I stupid for believing him? That he genuinely is in to me and that he isn't hiding me away but just doesn't want to say anything just yet as she's obviously a big part of his family due to being together so long? I haven't introduced him to my children and so is that the same thing?
Would you be pissed off or accept he will tell them when he's good and ready?