Recently I found out my husband was having an affair with a much younger woman and was in love with her. We separated and he moved out. He then told me he missed me, didn’t realise what he had in front of him, that he ruined his life, he still loved me, I told him to either leave me alone and not tell me these things or come home and we would try and fix our relationship. He ended it with the other woman and moved back in with me and our children. Since being back he’s distant and still texts her constantly despite knowing how unhappy I am, I’ve asked him to cut contact so many times but his reply is always the same, they’re friends and he will be keeping in touch. They text constantly. I’ve now told him, if he isn’t going to stop texting her then we are over. He didn’t really respond, so I literally have no idea what’s happening or what he’s thinking. Am I being unreasonable? The way I see it, is him choosing to try make our relationship work, it should go without saying that he cuts all contact with his ex mistress? Out of respect to me. He wants what he hasn’t got, had me but had an affair, had her after he left but then wanted me, now still texting her. I tried giving an ultimatum but he didn’t respond, do I say it again, or leave it a little bit?
Just needed a rant really, thanks for reading :)