Hi,
This is going to be really long, sorry! Just need some thoughts because I feel like I’m going mad.
So earlier this year we found out my mum (64) was having an affair. The bloke had put up a picture of him sitting in my mums car holding her dog. My dad had suspected something - this bloke was leaving inappropriate Facebook comments (she had always hated Facebook) and she’d said he was a friend. Anyway, my dad questioned her about the photo and she denied it, then said she would move out. She did, for 2 days, then went home - she says we forced her back.
Fast forward to the summer, she said bye to my dad, he went to work, then went home to 4 scrawled notes - one for me, my sister, my 14 year old daughter and one for him. They said she’d gone away, she’d be back in a week or so, she wasn’t with anyone else. She told my daughter to look after her grandad 😞 my dad was beside himself, saying he wished he was dead, he couldn’t go on - she turned her phone off and got a secret number which she didn’t give to any of us. Months went by, one day, in August, I went to see my elderly Nan, my mums mum, who had turned against us all because she said what my mum had done was none of our business. She shouted at me, slammed the door in my face and that was that. Overnight she fell, broke her hip and ended up in hospital with hypothermia and we were told she may well die. Mother came over, after my sister and I couldn’t get hold of her so told my uncle. She didn’t speak to either of us - but moved back in with my Nan. She hasn’t told anyone what her plans are, hasn’t spoken to any of the kids, she’s spoken to my sister but that has turned sour now too - things are awful. My dad is too scared to try and talk to her in case she tries to take the house from him and he is so depressed I feel like I can’t cope - every morning he calls me to tell me how shit his life is, that she could do this to him. My babies have lost their Nan and even though we weren’t close, I just don’t know what I did to deserve my own mother shutting me off completely - my sister and I think she is poorly - but whenever I try and search for similar situations, there aren’t any.
There’s more info, like how this bloke has form for getting with women then cheating on them, he lives with his mum, he set up a fb account using my nans surname - he called the police on my sister - it’s all so horrible.
I just don’t understand.