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Original poster

Guy with pregnant girlfriend keeps messaging me

51 replies

Confusedwalker · 11/12/2020 23:40

So just after abit of advice

I was seeing this guy about a 2years ago on and off for about 2 years
Neither of us were ready to commit at that time and it got abit messy

Anyway I found someone I wanted to be in a relationship with and called it off with him.
A few months later he also found someone.

All was fine until I broke up with my ex and the guy started liking my photos on insta ( he wasn’t following me at the time, so had to search for me each time )
This was both through his personal and business account

I confronted him on this and he said he wasn’t doing anything wrong, we had a quick catch up via DM where he admitted he would have liked to have given things a go with me but we were both in different head spaces back then and I kept him at arms length
There’s also other info he said but I don’t want to out myself on here

Anyway it turns out the girl he started seeing before is actually pregnant.
He did have her info in his insta bio but keeps deleting it.

My question is should I tell the preggo GF or should I carry on as things are.

OP posts:
NotaCoolMum · 11/12/2020 23:42

Block. Delete. Move on.

okokok000 · 11/12/2020 23:44

Block and delete. Personally I wouldn't say anything as you'll just get dragged into drama.

gnomeisland · 11/12/2020 23:45

Say what?

changedmynameforChristmas · 12/12/2020 02:51

@NotaCoolMum

Block. Delete. Move on.
yes
SmallBalloonAnimals · 12/12/2020 02:58

Carry on as things are? What? You mean continue messaging a man who has a pregnant girlfriend?

Just have a bit of integrity and self respect and block him.

Providora · 12/12/2020 02:59

Ignore him, stop checking his insta bio, 'a bit' is two words.

Spartak · 12/12/2020 03:04

What are you planning to tell her? That you confronted him because he liked some photos on social media? Are you 12?

Rainbowqueeen · 12/12/2020 03:08

What a creep
Block and delete.

I wouldn’t tell the GF because she is unlikely to believe you

AgentJohnson · 12/12/2020 06:07

Why haven’t you blocked him?

berrygirlie · 12/12/2020 06:12

Block, ignore, move on. Don't start drama, don't stay involved - you'll get nothing out of either in the end.

RantyAnty · 12/12/2020 06:14

Good grief! Stop talking to him! Block and delete.

Why would you even entertain this liar and cheat?

CatchingWind · 12/12/2020 06:31

What's attractive about a man that messages other women? And while his girlfriend is pregnant too.

Block him. Don't be flattered! Especially don't be flattered that he's going out of his way to search for you on Instagram to like your pictures. He's chosen not to follow you on Instagram for a reason - he doesn't want you to be seen on his follow list.

Sostenueto · 12/12/2020 06:31

Tell him to f off!

SnuggyBuggy · 12/12/2020 06:42

Block him. What does he actually add to your life?

Original poster
Confusedwalker · 12/12/2020 07:37

@Rainbowqueeen

What a creep Block and delete.

I wouldn’t tell the GF because she is unlikely to believe you

Why wouldn’t she believe me when I have the evidence?
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Original poster
Confusedwalker · 12/12/2020 07:46

@Spartak

What are you planning to tell her? That you confronted him because he liked some photos on social media? Are you 12?
Yes it does sound a bit silly but I was just trying to give some context to the story. That’s not the main problem is it
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MaggieFS · 12/12/2020 07:48

Neither! Don't tell her and don't keep messaging him. Tell him to F off and sort out his priorities.

Original poster
Confusedwalker · 12/12/2020 07:52

@MaggieFS

Neither! Don't tell her and don't keep messaging him. Tell him to F off and sort out his priorities.
I don’t personally think it’s really down to me to tell him his priorities.
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frazzledasarock · 12/12/2020 08:00

You want to tell the pregnant girlfriend of your scummy ex he’s been sending you messages (I’m guessing the messages are more than reminiscing over old times).

Why do you want to do this?

Do you think this chap (who’s looking to cheat on his pregnant partner) is a great catch and want him all to yourself?

I don’t believe for a second it’s from genuine concern for the pregnant girlfriend.

SmallBalloonAnimals · 12/12/2020 08:02

Can't you just ignore and block him?

That's what I usually do if I get messages from sleazy men. Surely it's what most of us do?

Aside from those women who occasionally post on here who believe it's a valid way to meet someone...

Original poster
Confusedwalker · 12/12/2020 08:03

@frazzledasarock

You want to tell the pregnant girlfriend of your scummy ex he’s been sending you messages (I’m guessing the messages are more than reminiscing over old times).

Why do you want to do this?

Do you think this chap (who’s looking to cheat on his pregnant partner) is a great catch and want him all to yourself?

I don’t believe for a second it’s from genuine concern for the pregnant girlfriend.

Because if I was the pregnant girlfriend I would want to know...!?

Wouldn’t you?
I suppose ignorance is bliss

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HallFloor · 12/12/2020 08:06

I think mostly, if I was the pregnant girlfriend I'd want it to stop. You can do that for her.

category12 · 12/12/2020 08:07

My question is should I tell the preggo GF or should I carry on as things are.

I was wondering why the two extremes, but I've realised in neither scenario you're invisaging, are you intending to stop getting involved with the guy.

You think it's a choice of blowing up his relationship or being his side-piece. Which is sad. He's not that great. Even if you get him broken up with her, what you're getting is a dirty dog who'd chase other women if you were pregnant too. Grim. Aim higher for yourself.

twolip · 12/12/2020 08:08

He had her info in his insta bio, Jesus how old are you all?

frazzledasarock · 12/12/2020 08:08

So noble and altruistic you are OP.

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