Evening,
After googling this for days and getting nowhere I thought I'd ask you lovely people for your views!
So I split from my ex in January - together 16 years, married 10. In the 10 years we were married he had 3 affairs I know of and countless other inappropriate behaviour with women. Latest affair I discovered in October 2019.
Anyway... In July I started hanging out with one of my closest friend's brothers. He'd come out of a 10 year relationship in January too. I told him and his sister at the start I had ZERO interest in a relationship... Well it didn't quite pan out like that! We get on really well, have fun together and he is quite possibly the nicest guy I've met... we have been seeing each other properly since August although it's not that often as I have my children most of the time and I am taking it slowly.
He's the complete opposite of my ex. He's quite quiet until you get to know him and not that confident either. Now obviously he comes prevetted as I have known his sister for years and we have spent time together before at family events which helps hugely.
My issue is that sometimes I find him too nice if that makes sense and I can't decide if it is him being needy or me being used to a complete arsehole?!
He is incredibly thoughtful. For example he knew one night I had a migraine so he secretly dropped off some pain meds and chocs for me (the in secret part is because he knows I don't want the kids to know about him yet). I found that a bit too intense! Is that normal or not?!
He also cooks for me lots and once he made a casserole and brought me a portion round.
He also talks about going away next summer and he tells me he has strong feelings for me. Again... Is this normal or is he being over the top?!
I feel reading this back most people are going to tell me it's me rightand that I'm lucky to have found someone so nice?!