How am I supposed to help?

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NC for this post..

I'm worried about my boyfriend being completely delusional.

The last 3 days I've seen him in the evenings he's been causing issues.

1st night - claimed I I followed someone on Instagram because when he checked in the morning it said a number then when he checked again it was 1 less. I showed him my phone saying the original number and his was saying one less. Proved I wasn't lying!

2nd night - causing issues because I said it's courtesy to check if he's going to turn up in the middle of the day in case I'm on a meeting and can't answer the door. Accused me of not meaning he can come round any time! He said he fully plans to turn up unannounced.

3rd night - asked if I had someone round as there were two dry patches on the drive. I'd parked in two different places during the day.

Now today because I read his message last night and didn't reply I fell asleep, woke up to a message about how I'm lying about falling asleep, he said Fitbit will prove it. Screenshotted and he said I could have got that from anywhere!

I'm fully aware he has major trust issues. Nothing that I have caused. But I'm getting to the end of my tether as he's saying I've got to do things to remove any doubt. I'm not sure what I can actually do? I feel this is his issue to sort out but he says it's his issue.
He said he'd feel better if he could be with me every evening even if I have to get on with other things while he's here. I've allowed that but he's still carrying on.
I know the easiest and best thing to do is to walk away but seriously how do I get him to understand that I am not responsible for sorting his shit out 😫

He says it's our issue sorry **

GETTTTTTT RIIIIIIIID

If I were you I would reach the end of that tether and dump the controlling, paranoid arsehole asap.

There is nothing good here and it will only get worse.

By the way, you need no reason at all to dump and block and no, you don't owe him an explanation, you don't owe him 'closure', you just BLOCK.

I think the problem is that you are actually giving his issues any time at all. You are making the effort to prove you are correct, sending screenshots etc. You should not have to do this in a normal relationship. And he is incredibly rude saying he is goin to come around unannounced. He is trying to catch you out, and you don't need to live like this. What would happen if you stopped offering to prove you aren't lying?

This does not sound like a pleasant relationship.

If you stay with this stalker then your an idiot.

It’s not your issue to sort. Walk away.

Oh, and -

but seriously how do I get him to understand that I am not responsible for sorting his shit out

you won't, ever. Because he doesn't agree with you. He thinks that once you are 'together', that means he wons you and your time and if you don't do exactly what he wants when he wants it, he will either sulk or be aggressive towards you until you do.

It's just called being a controlling abusive prick.

You do not try and reason with people like this any more than you stand in the middle of the road and try and convince the out-of-control truck to not mow you down.

You just get out of the way.

He isn't normal, intelligent or kind - so don't waste your breath.

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Seriously? If it’s this bad already it will only get worse.

*owns

Pffft, nope. Bin is the only place for it, I'm afraid.

You didn't cause it, you can't cure it and you can't control it. Walk away and save your sanity.

Nothing will change, he will always be, at the very least, HUGELY controlling like this.

Why are you wasting piss on this twazzerk?

As you say, the easiest thing here is indeed to walk away.

You are not responsible for him and he won't be at all wanting to listen to you re he actually sorting out his shit. You cannot act as his rescuer and or saviour here and he does not want to be rescued and or saved.

What do you get out of this relationship now?.
Do not continue to be in a relationship with this individual. There is only one way this will go for you and that is downhill fast. There are more red flags here than are present at a Communist Party Committee meeting and you at all ignore those at your emotional peril. He will send your own mental health further downhill if you don't dump him.

Holy fucking shit. No! What more are you going to tolerate? Red flags galore! This will only get a shit load worse, never will it get better as your enabling his behaviour by staying with him.

Fucking hell, this man is a controlling, gaslighting abuser, and his abuse is only going to get worse and worse. It wouldn't surprise me at all if he becomes physically abusive as well.

Get rid of him. TODAY. NOW. Tell him it's over and block him. Change your locks if you need to. Just dump him.

You make his issues sound like a small thing. They are massive and will seep into all factors of your life. He has to go. I'm sorry.

Whoa he's a prick.
Wave this one on.

How long have you been together?
I wouldn’t tolerate this behaviour at all. If you dump him he’ll be begging to come back. He could also be deflecting, as in he’s cheated.
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I agree with all the above. The is the type of person who will stop you leaving the house eventually and question everything you do. You'll be beaten down and trapped. Don't get to that point.
He's screaming at you who he is. Why put up with this behaviour? You deserve much better .
Get rid today. Block.

If it’s this bad now, it will get worse and worse so tell him he is being a controlling bastard and walk away. The more you indulge him the worse he will become.

I’m betting you don’t get all demanding to get him to prove crazy shit.

He's not even hiding who he is! Get the fuck out!

No, please end this now. He will not get any better. He will get worse and worse, controlling who you see, where you go, what you wear, what you buy - just get rid of him now.

You literally can't get him to see anything at all and it's a fool's errand to try. He's abusive and the only sane thing is to end it. Be prepared for him to increase the stalking if you do.

Dump him op
No other option

Get rid. He's showing you who he is. It won't get better.

His abuse which this is, is going to get far worse. This is extreme abusive behaviour and I'm afraid you can't help him. This is who he is. Get out while you have no strings attaching you. If you stay in this relationship and if he was to move in, this behaviour would esculate and trust me he sounds like the type of guy to turn physical.
This is from someone who has been in abusive relationships

Women are not rehab centres for badly raised men. It is NOT your job here to fix him, change him, parent him or raise him. You want a partner, not a project.