Question for mumsnet men....

[Doddlebug2000]

Men out there please can you shed me some light on this issue.

It's social media and men liking and/or then physically 'liking' other women's photos.
Explain this to me please. Is it innocent and can you put this in a simple way for me to understand?

I get so jealous about my own bf looking at Instagram women and he doesn't ever press the like button. I've just by chance come across this pic of a blonde big titted woman who lives local to me, and my BIL who is the most gentlemanly, family man, besotted with my SIL has liked her photo.
Please break it down for me.
To me a like on a photo like that means 'I would' and it's to let her know you have noticed it and you like what you see.
Tell me if I'm over thinking this whole nonsense and is it innocent and meaningless?
Thanks

I’m a man.

I don’t do this.

@PaddyF0dder do you have a look though if a nice looking woman appears on your feed?

No.

I’m a woman. But yes you are massively overthinking this and you clearly have self esteem issues. A like does not = I want to fuck you.

Well what does a like mean on a photo of a woman, done up, pouting, tits spilling out?
'I like your contour'??

I hear you OP.

It’s quite startling to realise that even the men you respect and hold as above all that and respectful of women, are still just pathetic single celled penises when it all comes down to it. The most blatant thirst trap photos and they’re pitching a tent and demonstrating that to the world so readily.

It means I think you look good. There is a huge difference between thinking someone looks good and wanting to fuck them.

Is your man not allowed to comment that a random woman looks good either without you blowing your top too?

Have you been cheated on before?

It’s quite startling to realise that even the men you respect and hold as above all that and respectful of women, are still just pathetic single celled penises when it all comes down to it. The most blatant thirst trap photos and they’re pitching a tent and demonstrating that to the world so readily.

I agree. I used to follow my dad on insta but had to stop because he was following and liking all sorts of insta models and porn actresses. Hes been married to my mum for 30 years, I think she'd be gutted if she found out. He obviously doesn't realise other people can see what he's liking and following. Just doesn't sit right with me.

Not that I know of!!
A glance in the street or a quick thought of 'she's hot' is different from 'liking' her pic on sm I think. Its there for all to see that you like it

@QueenOfPain @SparklyGlitter95
Im glad you get me
We all look at the people we find attractive and think what ever and appreciate they look good. All fine!!
Liking photos, commenting on photos, ogling just seems wrong

I get you too. If I followed insta it would be recipes, hobbies etc. If I was scrolling through for male underwear models, or shirtless celebrities, I think my husband would be unimpressed.

If I followed a load of female models with boobs hanging out, underwear shots, etc, and liked them all, I think my friends and family would wonder what on Earth was up.

Why would anyone think it's ok for a bloke?

@picklemewalnuts yes exactly

It's also very well saying
'Well they like the models on insta but they want to be with you'
Yea cos the models in insta wouldn't look at them twice!!

@JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam

I’m a woman. But yes you are massively overthinking this and you clearly have self esteem issues. A like does not = I want to fuck you.

Haha behave of course it bloody does

I don’t like women’s pictures but I suppose when I like something what is happening is I’m agreeing with other people that have liked a post and the person that posted it. As pathetic as this sounds it’s like joining a completely pointless club for a moment.

@Timeflyin Hold on, it’s impossible for it to always mean that and possible for it to sometimes mean that.

@Timeflyin hahaha thanks for the honesty!!

I’m on your page too doodle 🙌🏻

Liking the pic to me is the same as saying to wife, SIL, wife's best friend, colleagues, neighbours and other school parents "she's attractive" fine to think it or say it to your own best mate if you want. Not to all of social media. That is disrespectful to partner.

[quote Mustbe3ormorecharacters]@Timeflyin Hold on, it’s impossible for it to always mean that and possible for it to sometimes mean that.[/quote]
Ok fair enough impossible to always mean that..just extremely likely given the type of photos. It is disrespectful to a partner no matter what any cool girlfriends want to imply about anyones self esteem

[quote Doddlebug2000]@Timeflyin hahaha thanks for the honesty!![/quote]
I'm not a man tho..sorry !🤣

I agree with the last comments there.

I always suspect the men who act like that, would not be ok with it if their partners did the same with eg male gym bunny, fitness model men and sexy shots.

Same as with strip clubs etc.
It's nothing when they do it, bit somehow wouldn't be nothing of their partners did the equivalent.

It's a shame I don't like looking at half naked strangers!!
Might just scroll through some giant cock pics next time I'm with my bf and tell him it means nothing and it's just something I enjoy to do 😂😂

It’s the lack of sophistication in it as well. It’s always the most overt and obvious demonstration of female sexuality that they seem to be ogling. No sophistication or intrigue in it.