My boyfriend punched me in the face and fractured my nose.

[KCMummy]

I’ve written this post as an outlet, I’ve also written it for support and the hope that my story and experiences will help anyone going through the same thing to get help and be free.
I’ve written this lost in diary form, starting from today.
I will add how our relationship started, the things we went through and all the rest of it gradually.

The incident took place yesterday, it is still very raw. But if it’s raw it might help just one person become free, so here goes.

Diary of a beaten mummy;

Day 1; it all feels very surreal. I can only see out if one eye. My other eye is completely black and purple, it has a lump the size of a plum on it that has filled with fluid.
My nose is still very swollen and disfigured, it too is covered in bruises and is pretty purple, it had been broken with a head butt from my boyfriend.
My beautiful daughter (age 6) has been very well behaved, she’s been pretty much by my side all day. Not wanting for much, telling me I am still pretty “even doh your eyes is like that”.
I keep having thoughts about him, how we met, how close we were, how I can’t believe now I will have to create a life without him. It’s all so fresh, I’m even worried about him being in custody, will he be ok ?
I know I shouldn’t, but I’m human.
But I will not give in to these feelings, I will not speak to him ever again.

You and your daughter will be an amazing duo and you don’t need him with either of you. Your daughter sounds like a lovely little girl- so caring and considerate of her mum. And you are a strong woman and can walk away from this situation and you have an army of women on here willing you on.

Wishing you well @KCMummy. Just remember, he does not deserve you, you don't owe him anything. Don’t even give him a minutes thought from now. Xx

forgive me if I don’t answer all
Of course, you've been through a horrible trauma, we just want to help and support, dont feel you have to make any particular response.
The response we want is that you find the path away from the perpetrator and stay on it.

I've been where you are OP except they let him come home back to me after he'd broken my nose and left me looking like a monster. I didn't leave, I wouldn't give the police a statement as he rung them himself after he thought I was dead when just knocked out. A few months later I was the victim of an horrific attempted murder. Fucking hell please don't be me, I wish to god I'd been on MN at the time as people really know their shit here and are honest and supportive. It helped me afterwards to hear of other experiences so I just wanted to pass on mine to you. In the end I had a 7 hour police interview broken up over a couple of days and the fucker went to prison. You can do this, for you and your daughter. Don't ever take him back no matter how much it hurts, he will only go on to assault you more severely next time and this world is a better place with you in it.

Sorry you went thought his.

But well done on teaching your DD you don't have to accept abuse and for acting.

Vent away. And big hugs to you and your lovely DD.

Is he coming back to your home? What are your circumstances - do you live together? Can you change the locks? What have the police told you to do?

Sending you best wishes for you and your daughter.

All I can say is this...my previous partner was abusive on every level, physical, financial, sexual.
I ran to my mum and dads, my brother facilitated this.
You need to get out of there.

Hi everyone;

I know I said I would update but have been super busy with sorting this mess out & a bit down in the dumps to be fair.

Update...

He was charged with ABH, he had court the next morning and plead NOT GUILTY !! The nerve...but this only means he will get longer if found guilty so fingers crossed.

The police arranged for him to collect his things from MY property...so I packed up all his things, put them in bags and brought them downstairs. Can you believe the officer then began to tell me that I need to let my ex into my home so he can decide if anything else belongs to him or incase I have forgotten anything !!? WTF !!!!!
Luckily, my mum, who is a lawyer came with me. She simply stated that there is no warrant and there are restrictions set by the judge in place for my ex not to come near me.
After that we walked away and simply left, the officer made me feel very bad. When I told i him that my ex had done this too my face ( I have two completely black eyes and a swollen and bruised nose and cheek) he simply brushed it off and said “he still needs his stuff”. It’s just made me feel like this is what will happen in court.

Feeling down in the dumps for sure today.

Also @looselipssinkships could you private message me, thank you so much for your message you are so brave ❤️

Love and good wishes to you all.

KCMummy
that despicable police officer
I'm dismayed at the treatment you received from the police, I had thought those bad old days were over:(
Obviously you have more pressing things to deal with but I hope you have kept a detailed log of what happened with the 'bad' police officer so that you can take the matter further if you decide to. We should not accept treatment like that from those who should be on the side of victims and not on the side of perpetrators.
I'm not saying you should take it further if you dont feel up to it but I'm sure you're not the first to have cause for complaint about him

@KCMummy reading this made me feel ill, how the hell can anyone care about his stuff when he's assaulted you so badly? I love MN but it also makes me so bloody angry, so many good women being hurt and abused by pathetic, weak men. I hope he goes to prison and you go on and have a good life with with your lovely DC

Please complain about the feckwit police officer. What a tosser! So pleased you've got support in real life too.

The office unfortunately was doing his job. He was professional by not showing emotion, it could of hurt your case if he had shown bias.
In reality, he probably wanted to throttle the bastard himself.

Take care of yourself and your daughter

thank goodness your Mum was there OP... sending support and best wishes 🌺

Wow. I'm also wishing you all the best.

Thank you all for your kind words.

Today was hard...

My daughter asked a lot of questions today and I just feel so guilty for bringing this person into our lives, I feel so weak for not leaving before and such a let down to her.

I’ve spoken to school and they say she is doing well, resilient to it. I’m very proud of her. I always will be.

I’ve had so many up and down emotions today, I’m with my best friend and we spent some time pointing out a lot of his characteristics and things he would do that we can see were a pattern now. That we didn’t really see before.

😔

Thank you all again x

bless you OP ... I hope you and your daughter are doing well ... take each day as it comes 🌺

I’m so sorry to read this. And very sorry to see you lost babies earlier this year too. Please take very good care of yourself, your injuries and your DD. I hope someone somewhere is helping you get through your days.

OP I hope all goes well for you. Well done for leaving and being strong. Are you in touch with professional support such as Women’s Aid who can help you leave as safely as possible, as it can be the most dangerous time.

These tough times will pass.

You are strong and will move forward.

Your title says he punched you, your post says he headbutted you. I hope your statement to the police was clearer.

Thanks for pointing that out...but there were multiple injuries caused by my ex...punches and a head butt were involved. Probably me not being clear on here.
I hope I was clear too, either way the police have done a good job of understanding and my ex now awaits trial 😊

Glad to hear op hope you're doing well