Odd behaviour or just me?

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For context I'm 35 and live with my DD15. Have been with boyfriend for just over a year, he stays over maybe 2 or 3 times a week. Boyfriend and DD get on well.

This might seem a bit strange but it's not the only time I've noticed something like this so thought I'd ask what people think!

Last night boyfriend came over for dinner. Once finished he went in to the freezer and hid the only remaining ice cream so that he could eat it a bit later. My DD normally has one for pudding.

I asked what he was doing, he laughed and said he wanted the ice cream so had hidden it so DD couldn't find it. I immediately removed it from the 'hiding place' and gave it to DD who had just walked in to the kitchen to get one.

There have a been a few incidents like this. I've been stewing on it all night (I know that may sound a bit silly), but that's not ok surely?

The telling on her for snacking and pinching her ice-cream? Weird af. He seems to have an odd attitude to food and to your dd.

I think this guy is going to start trying to put wedges between you and your dd. I think the more he feels like he's got his feet under the table, the more he'll push back on your dd and basically try to drive her out of the nest.

Make sure you pick your dd.

Did you make any decisions about this OP? He really does sound like a childish prick!

After reading all of your replies, he sounds like a creep.

Dump his ass and then get a giant tub of ice cream and split it with your DD 💖

This is horrid, he is a nasty man who sees your daughter as competition, and that is not a healthy thing. Time for a "this is not working for me anymore", not a talk!!!

He sounds horribly like my ex in some ways. He used to smuggle things upstairs to eat but then criticise other people's eating habits. If I went into the kitchen to eat a biscuit for example, he would sneak in behind me and make a deal of how he had 'caught me'. But then I'd find empty crisp packets under his side of the bed. weirdo.

If he were a kind generous man normally, who hid the icecream for himself as a one off i don't think this would matter , but with the few things you have said i think this 1 action says a lot about him and i don't think he's as nice as you may think he is .
I certainly would not hold on to someone who didn't treat my kids well .

So he;

• Hid ice cream (stuff that you'd bought for your household?) because he saw there was only one, knew your daughter would want one and wanted it for himself.

• calls out to you/tells you when your daughter is getting herself a snack in her home

• hints that you should pay towards the once a month take out he buys because your daughter is also eating it

..... He seems to see her as an unwanted appendage/sibling/competition for food ... Really bizarre and his attitude seems likely to be communicating itself to your daughter, which is horrible.

He generally sounds grabby, stingy and immature as well.

Does he cook meals for you?