Man on POF won't leave me alone.

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Customer services (if there is such thing) are useless. For a few years now the same man has been messaging me. I told him from the start that I wasn't interested. I block him but it's not permanent and he's able to message again. I block after every message as I don't want to be giving him attention by messaging back. I can't change my name as I'm not an upgraded member and I don't want to hide my profile.
What can I do?

Delete it and start again with a different name?

Or just delete it? If you’ve been on it years and it hasn’t worked for you to find someone then what’s the point?

Just deactivate your account, it's only POF.

Can you report him to POF? They must surely have procedures to deal with harassment.

It doesn't come under their criteria for abuse. There's a drop down box for what you want them to do about it, I've thought about the 'give them a warning' option but that's drawing attention to it and 'take his profile down' seems a bit harsh?

Why are you so invested to staying on pof?

Why should I come off just because of him? I like going on there.

A bit harsh? He's harassing you!
Get harsh!

Well, it’s not exactly doing what it’s supposed to do in finding you a partner is it?

I believe you can hide your profile from public view. Then only people you message can message you.

How is it a bit harsh? Harassing you for years. And you've thought about asking POF to give him a warning.

I was going to suggest a hired goon to biff him in the nose but you haven't even asked Them to give him a warning never mind asking POF to kick him off!

Why are so many people telling OP she needs to get off POF? These are some of the most bizarre responses I have read on here. It’s not HER fault this prick is harassing her - why on earth should she have to stop doing something she enjoys because of a creepy bullying man?

OP, no practical advice because I don’t go on POF and don’t know how it works..... But certainly don’t feel you have to be driven off there. God’s sake. OP has done NOTHING WRONG!

If you're not asking pof to do anything about it, then how can you say their service isn't good?

You can leave pof and start a new profile.
Or ask pof to help you.
Or just carry on as you are, being harassed but not doing anything about it.

I agree that I need to get harsh!! I don't want to be hidden from everyone else.

My profile is in existence but I'm not really active on there much because of the pandemic, but I look sometimes and go on if I receive a message. It's not really a case of not being able to find someone, I've not been on much in the past two years, I've had plenty of opportunities, it's just really bad timing.

The op has done fuck all about it. She doesn’t want to report him. She doesn’t want to hide her profile.

The only other option is leave pof.

He’s harassing her but she isn’t reporting it anywhere.

Why the name change?

If you want to stay on POF and aren't prepared to ask them to block him then I think you're probably going to have to put up with it.
POF is a public forum that anyone can join, therefore it means anyone can message you.
If it's a free dating site you're after why not try Bumble?
People can only message you on there if you message them first

What is he saying to you?

Too right and thank you @tinyvulture

I've complained about him and submitted it, just not stated that it's harrassment. But it is isn't it.

Why are you so scared of reporting him?

Properly,reporting him and calling it what it is?

What SavoyCabbage wrote.

Op, it is harassment if he is messaging you despite you asking him not to.
Contact them again to report it.
I met my husband on POF 9 years ago, hope you find someone, or just a bit of fun, whatever you're looking for!

If this man has been conducting a campaign of harassment against you via POF, he is likely doing the same to other women.

You need to pick a side, either you think it's harassment and it's bothering you therefore report it appropriately, or it's a bit of a nuisance that you don't want him to be aware you're feeling so get a new account. You're getting no where defiantly wanting to keep your account but feeling too harsh to report it properly.

What have you said to him?

Don’t get me wrong, this is harassment. But have you tried saying “I don’t want to hear from you ever again”? I only ask because you seem very intimidated by him. And I understand, I was stalked for 5 years and it took 3 to change my mobile number because I was scared he might become more dangerous and I wouldn’t know. But other than an initial polite rebuff (I’m assuming) and repeated blocking, how has it gone?