Man on POF won't leave me alone.

[loveyoutothemoon]

Customer services (if there is such thing) are useless. For a few years now the same man has been messaging me. I told him from the start that I wasn't interested. I block him but it's not permanent and he's able to message again. I block after every message as I don't want to be giving him attention by messaging back. I can't change my name as I'm not an upgraded member and I don't want to hide my profile.
What can I do?

Don't feel stupid at all OP! This isn't your fault in any way, it's his. You should be able to have these apps without creeps like him x

So I've just gone on Facebook to block him and it states that he's in a relationship with the mother of his children. The same woman he was obviously still with 18 months ago when he was messaging me. To be more specific the reason why I asked him to stop contacting me the first time was because I confronted him after seeing his Facebook profile. He came up with an excuse as to why she was in photos etc. To me it looked like they had split up much more recently than he said on POF OR they were still together.

Anyway his last message to me on POF the other day before I blocked him on there was saying, I'm single now, if you want to meet etc. [shocked]

I feel like telling her!!!!!

Just block him on everything. If he doesn't know you in real life and you don't reply to him what's the worst he can do? I've had guys in the past make new profiles to message after I've blocked but I just deleted them without opening and reblock. I wouldn't tell his wife as it's not your problem and doesn't affect you.

If it really has been years as you say, then perhaps it becomes a police matter.

Some social media companies or internet dating sites do not take this kind of harassment seriously enough.

I'm confused how he's able to keep messaging you, because once you block someone on there it stays blocked, unless he is creating new accounts to message you on?

I deleted my account on a dating site and then rejoined using a different profile pic. I am like you OP. I like the fun of it. But I'm recycling the same losers that contacted me with my old profile. They don't remember you so you have to block again.

Oh he remembers me okay. I have others too that just don't get the message. They have no pride!

Don't come off it if you don't want to. I use SKOUT. There are a lot of weirdos on there but I just block. I'm just using it for flirting and fun until I'm ready for something more.

Just ignore the message? As in don't even open it

Sounds like you like the drama.

It's not that hard to avoid someone, if you can't then call police.

@wetasstenalady I have to go into the message to block.

@Sirtrapalot wow thanks!

Sorry to hear this OP. Try this website, they helped me out with a similar issue

reportharmfulcontent.com/report/

Thank you @Springfern that's helpful - never heard of that. I'll try on POF once more and then try that.

I never said block I'm saying just don't open his message in the first place let him get bored of talking to himself

Are you sure it's not a copy/paste job that he's sending to as many women as he can?

@Sirtrapalot
Talk about victim blaming, would you say the same if it was an IRL stalker?

@wetasstenalady sorry I completely read your message wrong - not sure how!!! I see your point. He would carry on messaging though, but that's what he's doing anyway! I'm going to get harsh though.

Talk about victim blaming, would you say the same if it was an IRL stalker?

No, I'd expect the victim to call the police.

As I'd also expect here, I'd also expect the op to not give a fuck about being too "harsh" with regards to reporting him if he's causing this great a problem.

I don't think it's me here that's loving the drama. I've been told that I've not reported it in the correct way, and I'm taking it on board. Are you like this IRL or do you just like to goad people on here?

What would happen to you if you just ignored his messages?

Well nothing would happen to me, but he'd carry on. But I need to try and get a response from POF.

If you reply to him to tell him you aren't interseted, don't use any apologetic words such as 'sorry' or 'I'm afraid' just tell him straight"I'm not interested, don't contact me again. "

@loveyoutothemoon I've pm'd you :)

I always get messages from people I'm not interested in on POF, some over and over. Tick the box next to their message and bin it without opening. Unless he knows you in real life? How did you see his fb? Are you using your real name as POF username?

I'm also wondering why you need to block him on fb. Why would someone you're not interested in have your fb details?