Any success stories of getting back with an ex for a third time?

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Does anyone have any sucess stories of getting back with an ex after multiple break ups? My ex left me twice over a 3 year period and has now returned for the third time. We weren't apart for long (only a few months) but in that time he had a full blown relationship with another woman. I love him dearly and am trying to make things work between us, but stuggling to close the door on the past. I find myself replaying everything in my head and in particular am finding the fact he so quickly moved on and slept with someone else hard to accept. Does anyone have any advice on how to put what's happened to bed and move on with him?

Don’t.

Move on and find someone who won’t drop you like a hot potato

Don’t. Listen to your gut and work on your self esteem issues. He’s left you TWICE and moved on quickly before. Why on earth would you waste any more of your time on him?

Why do this again, he’ll only leave when he’s had enough, drop block get on with your life, hugs.

This is like self-harm, OP. You need to stop doing it to yourself. You know it will hurt you, that he's really bad for you in so many ways. Have you thought of getting counselling?

Why would you do that?

What has he done to earn back your trust? The responsibility should be on him to do this. Not on you to lie awake wondering how you can forgive someone who has done nothing to earn this forgiveness.

Fool me once...shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. Come on op, why are you doing this to yourself? Madness is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

I'd say if he makes you happy when you're with him give it another go. But if not call it a day and move on. But left twice already doesn't sound good.

No.

I’m sorry to say this so harshly, but he does not love you like you love him. He has shown you who he is through his actions: believe him. You cannot change him. Take control of your life and do it without him.

This is like picking a shite out the toilet.

Just flush.

I don’t think you would find many people who would answer yes.

Just save yourself the heartache and move forwards.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

Raise your standards, woman. I'd have laughed in his face when he came crawling back the second time.

No.

HE HAS LEFT YOU TWICE ALREADY.

Please get a grip on yourself. You do not need him back. He will do it again I guarantee.

Look >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

That is your self respect, pick it up and exit this so called relationship with it intact.

Your future self will thank you.

Just a thought op, if you hurt someone you loved...or even just someone you remotely cared about, how would you feel? Horrible right? And surely you would never want to hurt them again?!

That's where he differs from you or I (and from any decent human being). He doesnt care a jot. It takes a certain type of person to do that. A cruel one.

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This is like picking a shite out the toilet.

Just flush.

@ChristmasSlayRide this made my day and has been stored in my brain for future use.

OP I'd say being gone for a couple months 'this time' to me is quite a long time. You should have been starting to pick yourself up after a couple of months rather than letting him back in. It's time to let go, be free and find someone who deserves you.

Don't do It!!

Move on and find someone who will treat you better xxx

I waited more than a decade on this ridiculous dance. Honestly, just don't. We're reasonably friendly now as we have a teenager child together and that's enough. You're on a hiding to nothing if you think it will ever change

Hell no!

You deserve better.

You really do need to start valuing yourself & say "I deserve a lot better than this"
Make it a mantra until you start to believe it.
You are a lot stronger than you think

OP can I ask why you are trying again with him? Is there a particular reason?

Relationships are not black & white & people break up for many reasons. My STBEXH & I had many break-ups and I ended it every time but ... he had a temper & I found it very difficult & distressing at times. He also treated me badly at times. Yes I hurt him but he really hurt me so very much too ... it’s not always clear-cut.

All that said, we’re headed for divorce so I had to reply to advise you to please not try to salvage this relationship. It’s so very unlikely to work out because it has broken before.

Check out the book ‘it’s called a break-up because it’s broken’ and ‘coming apart: why relationships end & how to survive the ending of yours.’

This too shall pass

Hi OP. I can empathise with this as I went through the same thing 2 years ago. My ex came back for 3rd time and we tried to make it work because the memories of how good it had been previously and that I'd truly loved him beat common sense.

I spent another 15 months with him (long distance) before it ended again. That's another 15 months of my life on top of the previous 2 times down the drain.

Just don't do it. As a PP said above its madness to expect different results the 3rd time round. If you were meant to be together, you would be and it would t be so messy/hard.

Be brave, push down your feelings and say no. You'll be glad of it in a years time.

Would it help if I was particularly blunt about this? If not then scroll on to the next post now.

Does anyone have any sucess stories of getting back with an ex after multiple break ups?
Hardly anyone does. Those who do are likely simmering with resentment and distrust underneath and that is no way for a life to be lived. These people have likely burnt their bridges with others, their friends are sick of hearing about how Wayne has shagged yet another woman and they have had it up to here with wiping their tears.

My ex left me twice over a 3 year period and has now returned for the third time. We weren't apart for long (only a few months) but in that time he had a full blown relationship with another woman
That woman has now binned him. So he's back at your door wanting to get his end away. Amy Winehouse summed it up well in Back To Black - 'Kept his dick wet with his same old safe bet'. The same old safe bet is you.

I love him dearly and am trying to make things work between us, but stuggling to close the door on the past
Have you ever tried to jam a wooden door into a frame that has deteriorated over time? Where the architrave has split or expanded over time? It won't go, will it? The only solution is to remove the frame for good.

I find myself replaying everything in my head
Yes, of course you will. That's what happens when you are betrayed. Do you really deserve to be living like this?

in particular am finding the fact he so quickly moved on and slept with someone else hard to accept
Why should you accept it? Is your self worth really that miniscule that you think you should put up with this? Is his cock made of solid gold? Does he spunk Dulce du Leche or something?

Does anyone have any advice on how to put what's happened to bed and move on with him?
I doubt it very much. It's an insurmountable task. However, if you want advice on how to put what's happened to bed and move ON from him then you are in the right place.

I am sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear but I promise you, this man is no prize. Flush that shite for good.

If he loved you he wouldn’t keep leaving you and hurting you.

Why why why would you even consider this? Raise your standards and stop being a glutton for punishment.