He hasn't said this outright but it has been implied by a few off-hand remarks.
I fell pregnant very unexpectedly whilst on the contraceptive pill 8 years ago. I lived in rental accommodation with a friend at the time and DH lived alone in his large house which had been largely funded by his affluent parents. My parents are quite poor and so have never helped financially.
He pushed for me to move in with him as soon as possible, despite me telling him that I would be willing to bring the baby up on my own etc as I knew he was in shock at the pregnancy (as we both were).
We both had good jobs and earned a fairly good salary. DC1 came along and I took 9 months maternity leave before returning to work full-time.
I worked in a fast-paced, demanding career and to top it off, was bullied on my return to work. I sought counselling due to a nervous breakdown and they suggested that I reduce my hours to part-time to cope with the juggle of work and home life. DH was clearly not happy about this and became concerned about the reduction in our "quality" of life. Despite my quality of life being awful at that time.
However, he went along with it, but would protest that he should have more disposable income than me because I "wasn't working enough." I was at home with a baby on the days I wasn't working and spending most of my disposable income on the baby anyway.
2 years on (married by this point) we had DC2 who was planned.
I changed to a new job after the bullying continued and DC2 was born with some health issues. I accepted a more part-time role, with a reduced salary in a new job for a second time as I was juggling appointments and was more anxious about leaving DC2 in childcare than I had been with DC1. I did continue to work however and dealt with everything at home so DH could just focus on his work.
He has always resented this and thinks I should have been able to manage working and home life. DH however does very little at home.
DH has made comments that we would have more money if it were up to him etc. He will also say that I would have nothing now if it wasn't for him as I was in rental accommodation when I met him. I was however more career driven that him and have no doubt that I would have had promotions and salary increases had we not had children.
I am now initiating divorce from him (several reasons for this) and he has told me that he has a plan for himself to make more money following the separation. He says that he will not be purchasing a home for himself but intends to move in with his affluent parents, buying run down properties and "doing them up" in his own time himself. This is to try and make more money, however he's chosen this path over creating a second stable home for DCs when they stay with him (he wants 50/50 custody!) He seems to think that his parents will accept the DCs living with them half the time and I've no doubt he will expect them to take care of DCs whilst he transforms all these properties he's planning on renovating.
He has made comments that he feels envious of his friends who seem to have better jobs and salaries than him and that he thought he would be much better off financially than he actually is now. He wants to be affluent likes his parents who both juggled FT work through having their own successful businesses throughout his childhood.
He makes me feel guilty for feeling the need to be around for our young children. I will be returning to work FT in January as both DCs are now at school.
I'm a bit saddened by his attitude and his clear lack of value for the role I've played in our family,but there's guilt there for me too. Maybe I have made him poorer through the choices I've made. I thought there was more to life though.