Too Needy

[Needswillpower]

Hi All, I don’t post on here much but I’m learning a lot re. Relationships so thank you. I’m in my 40s and have just begun a relationship with my “fwb” after three years. I’m not very experienced in relationships so may sound quite naive for my age. Anyway, I’m not too sure what level of contact we should be having. I know each person is different. We went for a walk on Sunday and basically I’ve heard nothing since. He’s not very affectionate anyway, just a quick pec on the lips most times. Messages are quite basic too ‘hi, how are you?’ The usual ones. I spoke to a friend about it and he thinks I’m being too needy. This is what I don’t want to come across as. Any advice? Thank you

[quote Needswillpower]@Bunnymumy you are right. He’s too “cold” for me. I’m not overly touchy feely but consider myself not to be closed off if this way. I say love you to my family and friends and put kisses on texts regardless. I’m finding I’m more careful not to do this on messages to him as he panics and pulls away. X[/quote]
Oh goodness, get rid.

You literally can't be yourself with him. It's that simple.

If you can't be yourself with someone you can't have a healthy relationship with them.

You're delaying the inevitable! You need to get out in front of this and just end it instead of waiting for him to do so, with your self confidence being knocked the longer it goes on.

You just aren't compatible, that's life!

He's 100% emotionally unavailable. Dump and move on.