relationship advice

[alpa1337]

so me and my partner broke up around the 22nd/23rd of july due to her wanting attention from other males (did not cheat, but still have the thoughts about other men) so she cut it off with me before hand... for a few weeks we didn't speak and around the end of august started speaking and sleeping together again (protected)
this is where is gets abit more confusing for me... her periods were very irregular during our time together and our last date of sex was the 18th, which she was on the contraception so was unprotected but was due to run out.
Anyway, she fell pregnant very shortly after we started speaking again and stated to the midwife she had stopped bleeding on the 3rd, the midwife had guessed she had concieved roughly on the 4th, so after a lot of confusion i would love to believe it's mine but we didn't have sex weeks before hand or weeks afterwards, and around the time we started sleeping together she was showing symptoms of morning sickness, breasts swelling, very small bump forming... unfortunetley she has lost the baby and i hate myself for the doubts in my head but i attempted to talk to her and she just got very defensive, emotional and verbal about me being paranoid...
do you think i'm being paranoid?😔 i know she met someone a few days before the midwofes date but apparently nothing happened...

It’s difficult to tell from your post: are you still in a relationship or trying to rekindle the relationship? If so then I think you need to do so bearing in mind that she possibly had sex with somebody else whilst you’d broken up - and that she hasn’t done anything wrong by doing so - and move forward on the basis. If you can’t cope with that, or can’t move forward whilst you believe she’s not telling you the truth, then end things now.

The pregnancy is a red herring really - she isn’t pregnant any longer so you don’t have to be concerned about paternity. The symptoms of what you think was early pregnancy sound a lot like PMT to be honest.

sorry for the terrible sentance structure!
yes we are still together and i do agree she didn't do anything wrong considering we was not together at the time, but she stated nothing happened and that the baby was 100% mine. i just need solidarity to clear my mind from the paranoia that it wasn't mine, either way it's very difficult with the loss but from what the midwife stated about the date it does not add up at all to any dates me and her had sex... my mind is a mess from it and i continuously have to tred on egg shells to avoid very verbal comments being thrown at me in her defence. But i adore the girl and this is why i want to work things out so i can move past this and continue to be happy with her, she was not honest about meeting him until her friend slipped up, which like we said we wasn't together so it wasn't wrong of her but the dishonest persona isn't like her at all

Day 1 I'd first day of bleeding. Average conception in most women takes place between Day 10-Day 14, depending on length of cycle.

she had bled for nearly 3 months straight with one or 2 days when she no bleeding at all - which is when we had sex. but if she stated she stopped bleeding on the 3rd, from the 19th july to the 29th of august we did not have sex, is there any possibility of irregular ovulation or?